You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Sh1t , getting girls is so out of your reality. You'll have some bad problems in the future if you don't start acting NOW. You'll never have abundance.trv26 said:Also, if not trying to get with other girls, what other practical suggestions do you have to get over a breakup?
Huh? What are you on about? Ok I know I'm not rolling in girls, but atleast i'm trying.Daddy The Pimp said:Sh1t , getting girls is so out of your reality. You'll have some bad problems in the future if you don't start acting NOW. You'll never have abundance.
Well you're doing the right thing by discussing it. There are a few (only a few) people I've seen on this board give good advice. Try other mediums as well. I, for one, used to be a LAME in high school. Since then I've dated hundreds of females, thanks to the stuff I learned from other guys (and a few females) who were "THOROUGH" with game.trv26 said:Fair enough. I don't think she minds chatting however, because often its her starting the conversation. But I do get the point about persistence not changing anything w.r.t. attraction.
Also, if not trying to get with other girls, what other practical suggestions do you have to get over a breakup?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Do you think she wants a relationship with you? If no, and you still want one with her, you will end up chasing her and it will not end well. Give up before you dig into this problem too deeply.trv26 said:I asked her for phone, said no. Asked her out, she said no.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Dude, listen. If she gave you a direct no, that means NO!trv26 said:Lol, how will I get hurt? And even if I did get hurt, isn't this site all for doing something even if its the wrong thing, but learning something through the experience?
Also I think I'm at the friend-bf juncture, and if I play things right I'll be in.
Is she worth pursuing? If you're just desperate for a girl shes not worth it, become her friend and use the opportunity for practice dealing with women, connections, etc.trv26 said:Also I think I'm at the friend-bf juncture, and if I play things right I'll be in.