Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Dude you won't believe most of my pickups have been on the running track, when they are freaking running round and round listening to their IPod music. I have stopped doing that now cuz it saps a ton of energy from myself.ARrocket said:
Thanks, I'll do that. I have nothing to lose, right?daygameguy said:
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
What I do is when I'm reading a paper on a train next to a girl I'll point to an outrageous article and say "look at this. listen to this 'read headline'" and get her involved while joking about some of the silly things in the news.Lifeforce said:Hm, well Im usually reading a free newspaper on the bus. Last time I folded the paper together and pointed to her towards it as if she wanted it. She said "yes please" when she reached out to grab it I pulled back to tease her
Anyways, I'm not picking up women out in the cold anymore but it seemed like it worked good. If she was wearing headphones I'd just ask her if she wanted it and then pull back and after she got the paper I'd start to talk to her to see if she would start to read the paper (not interested) or continue talking.
In a seated setting (bus, restaurant, coffee shop) - take out a piece of paper, draw a tic tac toe, pass it to her, if she is cool.. she'll play along. Finally let her win, and she'll be willing to break the ice with you.guywhoneedshelp said:
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.