disfunktional
Don Juan
If you were to move to a big city, where you knew pretty much no one, and you could afford to rent your own place, would you rent your own place or would you share with others in order to have some people there you knew?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Moving
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Alone. Living with other people is ****. You don't have your privacy...
I just moved to another city and I don't know anyone from there.
Take it as an opportunity, now you can have a clean start and have better friends, practice your new social skills, etc.
I'm assuming you are moving from your post right?
I just moved to another city and I don't know anyone from there.
Take it as an opportunity, now you can have a clean start and have better friends, practice your new social skills, etc.
I'm assuming you are moving from your post right?
disfunktional
Don Juan
Yep, moving to London. I don't know anyone though, a few people from work but mostly not the sort of people I would want to hang around with. I just wondered peoples opinions. I do like my own space, and I have lived on my own before, but sometimes I find it can get quite lonely.
I felt lonely couple of years ago sometimes too (I've been living practically alone since I was 16).disfunktional said:
You just have to start over and make new friends. Try to find some alpha males to make friends with. A new hobby might help, something that requires other people, like martial arts for example.
I imagine there are many kind of social clubs in London as well.
Remember to explore and keep your eyes open and socialize. And don't get stuck on first people that are friendly to you. As you evolve as yourself (being a DJ), you should make your social circles evolve, don't hang out with losers, try to find the winners.
I'm facing the same challenge man, it's not easy to start from nothing without knowing anyone going to a work that doesn't involve much socializing...
Hey, there are always bars and clubs
disfunktional
Don Juan
thanks Ice
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
diablo
Master Don Juan
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