"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Moving to a different area

SayWhat

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I've always wanted to live in the vicinity of where I live now, mainly because of family and friends. But even on this anonymous forum, it's very hard for me to say I'm 31 and still live with my mom (for personal and family reasons like last kid out of the house, father died at 12 etc...). But lately I've had it, it's time to move on.

My workplace is an above average commute, but I don't mind the drive as I like driving. But it's so boring here, my friends always go to the same places and you don't meet new people that often as it's mostly a rural area with some build up areas.

Another caveat is the fact it's very hard for me to make new friends. If I would move to a city, I don't know how it would go. How would I make new friends, meet new people? And I'm not talking about the standard stuff like joining a gym and talk to people/club/just go out/... I'm simply talking about my own personality.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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biggoal

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I've always wanted to live in the vicinity of where I live now, mainly because of family and friends. But even on this anonymous forum, it's very hard for me to say I'm 31 and still live with my mom (for personal and family reasons like last kid out of the house, father died at 12 etc...). But lately I've had it, it's time to move on.

My workplace is an above average commute, but I don't mind the drive as I like driving. But it's so boring here, my friends always go to the same places and you don't meet new people that often as it's mostly a rural area with some build up areas.

Another caveat is the fact it's very hard for me to make new friends. If I would move to a city, I don't know how it would go. How would I make new friends, meet new people? And I'm not talking about the standard stuff like joining a gym and talk to people/club/just go out/... I'm simply talking about my own personality.
I would move somewhere where there are younger people, bigger town and look at the demographics carefully. Don't make the mistake I did moving to a region where every county has an median age of at least 50 and over. I knew it was old people's area down here but I didn't know it was that bad now.

the young people I run into down here are either married and moved from up north with a career already and kids, or if they're single they're damaged goods and white trash variety, uneducated. Not what you would typically find in a large city with young single women and less damaged.
 
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