"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Moving the conversation away from negative topics

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MrP

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I was looking through some of my older facebook messages between me and girls today, trying to figure out what I've done to get success or failure, and one girl that seemed to be really into me brought up that her mom died and completely killed the vibe.

Me: Hey we went to 6th grade together, didn't we?

HB: Haha yes we did!!! I remember that. lol

Me: Oh yeah, you're the girl who gave me your phone number at the end of the year. Sorry, but i think i was a bit too young. haha lol

HB: haha lol :)

Me: Do you still go to (******)

HB: no .. my mom died a year ago. so i moved in with my dad in (******)

Me: Oh. Sorry...

HB: Yeah

Could I have just kept it going?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You SHOULD have just kept it going. By saying "oh. Sorry..." you brought a lot of attention to the subject, you made it really awkward, and you killed the conversation.

You could either ignore it, and say "where do you go now?" which is probably what I would have done...

Or, if you're going to say sorry, you pretty much have to follow up with another subject.
 
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You could of been like "Sorry, where do you go now." or something to that effect. Anything just to keep the convo moving forward. I personally like to conversations like movie scenes...in a movie every scene means something and they keep building on top of each other...very rarely is there any fluff and pointless stuff happening, everything has a purpose...Same with a conversation everything should build on top of each other and as long as it's moving forward it's all good.
 
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