"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Moving the conversation away from negative topics

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I was looking through some of my older facebook messages between me and girls today, trying to figure out what I've done to get success or failure, and one girl that seemed to be really into me brought up that her mom died and completely killed the vibe.

Me: Hey we went to 6th grade together, didn't we?

HB: Haha yes we did!!! I remember that. lol

Me: Oh yeah, you're the girl who gave me your phone number at the end of the year. Sorry, but i think i was a bit too young. haha lol

HB: haha lol :)

Me: Do you still go to (******)

HB: no .. my mom died a year ago. so i moved in with my dad in (******)

Me: Oh. Sorry...

HB: Yeah

Could I have just kept it going?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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You SHOULD have just kept it going. By saying "oh. Sorry..." you brought a lot of attention to the subject, you made it really awkward, and you killed the conversation.

You could either ignore it, and say "where do you go now?" which is probably what I would have done...

Or, if you're going to say sorry, you pretty much have to follow up with another subject.
 
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You could of been like "Sorry, where do you go now." or something to that effect. Anything just to keep the convo moving forward. I personally like to conversations like movie scenes...in a movie every scene means something and they keep building on top of each other...very rarely is there any fluff and pointless stuff happening, everything has a purpose...Same with a conversation everything should build on top of each other and as long as it's moving forward it's all good.
 
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