"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Moving should I make Amends

whatshouldido

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Just broke up with GF of about 4 months only two weeks ago. I had moved to a new city and jumped into it way too fast. Totally understand what happened. Honestly my situation couldn't possibly mirror this thread any more, overthinking and all:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=179635

Well she finally got chased away, we know the story. Few days later I find I am relocating back to my old hometown, work is transferring me back.

When it broke off I figured after the craziness of back and forth died down we may see each other again somehow. I know I was in a new city but I was WAY caught up on this girl.

Admittedly I acted like a complete a$$hat but now that I am leaving none of the relationship stuff matters.

I really want to just see her one last time to make amends, I leave town in 10 days.

How should I do it?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Jblitz59

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tell the truth, you're leaving FOR GOOD in 10 days.

let her know that you had some crazy times together and want to end it on a 'good note'

doesn't matter what you say, it will not fail if you say: "I'm leaving in 10 days"
that will be what she keeps hearing
 

Iceberg

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I guess you can, but uh...why? You dated her for 4 months, not 4 years. Who cares?
 
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I wouldn't bother.

Just hold the memories you had and let it all go, move on with your life. You don't need closure because you will have gotten that in the aftermath of the break up.

There have been times where I want to get in contact with my exes but I never do, it's not worth it. You're just asking to relight a fire and that's never a good thing.

Suck it up and move on. :)
 
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