"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Moving Quickly vs Taking Your Time for the First Call/Date

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There are two schools of thought

Wait a few days (3-5) then call her and ask her out for a mid-week date. This demonstrates that you are not "desperate" nor "needy" and that you aren't heavily invested in her. This is the standard - 95% of the time.

Act Now - if you are clicking, call her sooner and just ask her out for whenever you are available. You don't care if you will seem desperate because she's into you and wants you to call.

On Monday, I got a girl's number in my class. She's not a total stranger as I've talked to her a few times before in person. I texted her a few hours later something like "hey this is xxx from class, save me in your phone" and she responded "Thanks i'm saving you now :)"

Last night, she initiates texts asking about some homework. I took my time to respond and we went back and forth a few times and then I stopped responding.

Tonight, I'm going to call her and ask her out for this Friday. Why?

- I think she has high IL (IOIs in person, texts me first)
- She's pretty hot
- I don't have set plans on Friday

Most importantly:

- I don't care if she says no


I will report back the results.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Ring.. ring..

HB: Hello?
Me: Hey it's me
HB: Hi!
Me: What's up
HB: blah blah
Me: some blah blah small talk
...
Me: So let's get together Friday
HB: Oh I can't hun I'm going away to my aunts for Easter weekend.
Me: OK no problem maybe we'll talk next week
HB: What about tomorrow?
Me: I'm going out with some friends (true) but not until later. Let's get a drink at 8 then.
HB: OK yes where?
Me: blah blah bar at 8pm. I'll talk to you later
HB: ok hun see you then!

Never had a girl call me "hun" on the first date call.

Had a great time last night on the "date". Kino-ing a ton. Wanted to highlight the kiss close conversation because I was so proud of myself for handling it the way I did:

We walk to her car.

HB: Ok goodnight
Me: (take hand, turn her body toward me, go in for kiss)
HB: What are you doing?
Me: What I want.

Kiss-close.

She texted me about an hour ago:
HB: Hi hun thanks again I had a great time!!!!

Haha!
 

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Uncharted said:
There are two schools of thought

Wait a few days (3-5) then call her and ask her out for a mid-week date. This demonstrates that you are not "desperate" nor "needy" and that you aren't heavily invested in her. This is the standard - 95% of the time.

Act Now - if you are clicking, call her sooner and just ask her out for whenever you are available. You don't care if you will seem desperate because she's into you and wants you to call.
Yeah, it's not what you do, it's how you do it, how you deliver it.
 

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Goddamn that kiss close moment is an anxious one. Very well played out. And I would choose the Act Now school of thought. If interest is there you can mail her a pile of your fresh crapper and she'll think it's cute. If she finds you repulsive, you can buy her a Bentley and she'll still find you, well, repulsive.

Good luck with this one, keep us posted.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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