"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Moving out

dk_in_mn

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We just broke up last night and I'm moving out on Monday. I have a lot of packing to do, but I have all weekend to do it until my buddies get up here Monday morning.

The break up ended bad. I found out that she's seeing some other guy here in town and has been for the last 2 weeks. I'm pretty pissed after everything that I've done for her to have her just spit in my face like this. I went over and beyond what was expected of me to not only help her out, but help her two kids as well. Her ex doesn't pay child support so I paid for graduation pictures, high school sports, gas money/spending money, school clothes; etc. She was using me and I fell for it. However, this morning when we talked she did agree to pay me back some of the money she owes me. She can't afford to pay me back the full $3,800 so we settled on a lower amount which she will pay on Monday. Once I get what she owes me then I will start NC and never look back. She actually had the nerve to ask if we could remain friends, I couldn't believe it!

In the meantime, I will be staying at the hotel right down the street and will continue to pack my things when she's not at the house.

I already deleted all contact info. Her phone, email, facebook and have to get a couple of the bills out of my name this afternoon as well.

I never argued in front of her two kids even though she tried to a few times. They shouldn't have to be subjected to that, they didn't do anything wrong. I don't want her to ever contact me again and I'm a little torn if I should remove her two teenagers off of facebook as well. I know it sounds dumb but I don't want her logging in through their accts just to see what I'm up to.

Thanx for letting me vent. Just really pissed off right now that I got played like that!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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PDubb75

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I just went through that whole breaking-up-and-moving-out thing after a 6 year relationship. I know how you feel, and I know it sucks.

To get to your question, I think you need to remove her kids from Facebook. If they don't understand why you removed them, I'm sure she will explain it to them somehow. If she simply bad-mouths you to them, 1) you won't know about it and 2) as much as you don't want that to happen, theres nothing you can or should do about it.

This was obviously a situation that hurts on a deep level, and keeping them as friends will just keep bringing that thought/feeling back. You gotta just start fresh.
 

Tiguere

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be glad you didnt have kids of your own with her.

wow and i thought single mothers were loyal since their market value is low.

as long we have men without standards we will continue to see this behavior from women.
 

5string

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I went the single mom route once. I feel your pain and will not be critical or judge. You paid a dear price brother.

You did the right thing.

My advice, although you don't want to, I'd close out your Facebook and maintain radio silence with the kids as well. You know by what she has done that there will soon be another guy in her life.

Feel bad for the kids though.

Good luck, really.
 

dk_in_mn

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She came to the hotel this morning and wanted to talk, I wasn't having any of it. No idea what she wanted to talk about. Probably to say she was sorry, but sorry doesn't mean anything to me. I told her when she left that I never want to hear from her again. I just want what she owes me and I'm gone.

I took my laptop with me last night and I deleted all contact info and 13 other people off of fb. It's none of her business what I'm up to or how I'm doing anymore.

This hurts like hell to get used like this, but I gotta do my best to move forward.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Ease

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Why did you pay all that money for her?

Why did you raise someone else's kids like a backup provider?

You call the kids 'her teenagers' and consider deleting them of FB, so clearly they weren't close to your heart in a family sense. Why did you pay all that money?

Why did you let her use you?

How is this woman supposed to respect and stay loyal to you anyway? Does it sound like you deserve any respect or loyalty?
 
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