You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That is the greatest compliment I've ever received on SS.PairPlusRoyalFlush said:could be made up for attention
Wait that's her? You are going through all this? For THAT???bigneil said:That is the greatest compliment I've ever received on SS.
But as Alex Jones would say: you can't make this stuff up, folks. I do realize the actual risks I'm taking, my going undercover to report on the nefarious inner workings of an actual foreign slvt in her natural habitat. They kill spies over there. But she practically does look like a Bond girl.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Chamber36 said:I live in Amsterdam and I bet I could get a hot Bulgarian or Romanian chick to move in with me, pay me rent and I could probably bone her as well....
I suppose Bigneil's got a catch with the apartment.
Has CordonCordon admitted she is a woman yet?cordoncordon said:Wait that's her? You are going through all this? For THAT???
She is what....a 5? If that? I am seriously coming to the conclusion that most people in this world are complete crazy people. I wouldn't even go on a date with a girl like that, let alone move in with her.
BN? This proves to me that you have more than a few screws loose. I knew it after the first stripper episode, but this confirms it. Also, get a better taste in women. Your standards are way too low.
You are more delusional than even I thought if you think that girl is hot in any way, shape, or form.bigneil said:Has CordonCordon admitted she is a woman yet?
Who else would protest a man saving $125 per night by living with a (yes) hot girl. I doubt any man would say this girl is a 5 or lower. And what is "all this" I've put up with? Finding a new girl sleeping in my bed? Saving $1000 the first week?
PS - The stripper just texted to invite me over to her new house this weekend. We'll be celebrating 18 months of sex. Yeah, I must have gone mad.
She reminds me of a less attractive version of Lucille Ball. Not that LB was even attractive.PairPlusRoyalFlush said:That russian is a 4.
no need for insultscordoncordon said:Wait that's her? You are going through all this? For THAT???
She is what....a 5? If that? I am seriously coming to the conclusion that most people in this world are complete crazy people. I wouldn't even go on a date with a girl like that, let alone move in with her.
BN? This proves to me that you have more than a few screws loose. I knew it after the first stripper episode, but this confirms it. Also, get a better taste in women. Your standards are way too low.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Once again Dr. Flush makes a wrong medical diagnosis.PairPlusRoyalFlush said:dont fvck the bpd cvnt![]()
"A Bond Girl" you say? She looks more like Mr. Bean to me :crackup:bigneil said:But she practically does look like a Bond girl.
cordoncordon said:She reminds me of a less attractive version of Lucille Ball. Not that LB was even attractive.
well you shouldn't do that....when you don't know what it is....you don't know the signs!!PairPlusRoyalFlush said:I said it as a catchall because not everyone here knows of HPD...jerkoff.
yes it is...there are zero BPD signs with this woman....what would you call it then? it sure as hell ain't no BPDPairPlusRoyalFlush said:Her behavior is not clearly HPD.
you should read this thread again so you can see the attention seeking.PairPlusRoyalFlush said:I havent seen any attention seeking at all..
PairPlusRoyalFlush said:Anal retentive, much? Another male Cluster B getting all defensive...
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.