"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Moving away for school

OlympicTim

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Since most you guys are older than me I figured I'd ask her.

I have the option to either stay home and live in my hometown (either at home or move out with some buddies) or go to another town about 3 hours away for the same program.

The school doesn't matter to me since both are good schools and I know people in both areas who can get me a job almost immediatly after I graduate.

However in terms of growing as a person and DJ what do you guys think I should do?

Either

a) Live at home and go to school
B) stay in my hometown but move out with some buddies
C) go to the new town live in residence and make some new friends
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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dude99

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Do what is best for your future and your career. Dont comit to any ladies under 25 because they will change like the wind. Date. Have fun. Enjoy but focus on what is best for you and your future.
 

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Either B) or C). Are the buddies you'd move in with as into growth and DJ as you are? If the are, then B). If they are not, then C).

I'm not suggesting you abandon your friends if you choose option C). You need to surround yourself with like-minded people if you want to grow. Your buddies might hold you back, if they aren't after the same general goals you are.
 

OlympicTim

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I think getting away into new horizons always forces growth and is a positive choice.

If going away to school, in your case, means you will then graduate with excessive student loan debt, as a result, give that meaningful consideration in your decision as well.
Thats the issue. Because right now I have a steady job where they are very flexible with my hours so I could pull 20-30 hours a week while in school and during the summer get 50 plus a week. Its only 12 bucks an hour (more then minimum wage I ain't complaining) but with this Job living at home I could graduate with no student debt money and money to spare while still having spend
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Speculator E

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Stay, if they are the same in quality. A new location is not going to make you grow that much. Every city has the same McDonald and Walmart. Think hard about it. What are you going to miss that different from your home town in a new city?
 

fastlife

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Leave. Your best friends won't change--they'll still be there when you get back--but you might.

Your real friends aren't the ones that make you feel comfortable or secure or afraid to live life for you; they're the ones who give you permission to do what's best for you. You might not talk t them for months or years--but when you see them again none of that matters.
 

ThrowAwayId

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What's the cost of moving to another city to live vs. living with buddies. It'll prob'ly be cheaper to live with buddies.

Don't stay at home. Parents and siblings have old, established habits around you and will keep trying to use those habits rather than letting you grow. It's not even a conscious thing. Staying at home will hold you back.
 

El Payaso

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Stay.
 

l__i__l

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C)

You will develop quicker once out of your comfort zone.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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