Last night went on an amazing night however I was dealt the biggest surprise. Were walking while holding hands and she tells me she was uncomfortable with me buying her stuff and making plans she basically said were moving to fast and she doesn't know what she wants out of life yet, is confused but wants us to remain friends. I walked her to her car still holding hands kissed her (she did not pull away) and told her I understand. Today I texted her as normal as she is currently involved in a project that I secured for her. After thinking about it she forwarded the mostly finish product and I told her I'll finish it and that I will get her check next week. Now my question is what to do next? My first thought it just to ignore her outright and whether she comes around or not, is this the right decision?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Moved too fast...
- Thread starter Radar1234
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
Why did you buy her ANYTHING? There is an implicit message that now she has to do something for you..... like sex. AFTER she sexes you up,at least 10 times. THEN you can get her a small gift. Then it's "thoughtful"
Back off a bit, don't be so needy or easy to connect with. See if she comes around.
Back off a bit, don't be so needy or easy to connect with. See if she comes around.
I bought her flowers and a watch for Valentines day prior to that we had gone on several dates and hooked up with that said I will take your advice thank you any other input would be appreciated! This date was actually rescheduled by her and she drove out her way to meet me but i feel that she got the feelinh she was being pressured which was not my
Intention at all
Intention at all
Desdinova
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You know what I got my GF for Valentine's day? A card. Not only that, it was a card that came out of a box of Valentines I bought for my kid to fill out for school. No watch, no flowers, nothing.
She made me a card, put on some lingerie, and fvcked me senseless.
You bought all that crap for her and she didn't even fvck you. You wasted your money. Quit wasting money on chicks you want to fvck. Reward the ones who happily fvck you without receiving lame gifts from you.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.