Last night went on an amazing night however I was dealt the biggest surprise. Were walking while holding hands and she tells me she was uncomfortable with me buying her stuff and making plans she basically said were moving to fast and she doesn't know what she wants out of life yet, is confused but wants us to remain friends. I walked her to her car still holding hands kissed her (she did not pull away) and told her I understand. Today I texted her as normal as she is currently involved in a project that I secured for her. After thinking about it she forwarded the mostly finish product and I told her I'll finish it and that I will get her check next week. Now my question is what to do next? My first thought it just to ignore her outright and whether she comes around or not, is this the right decision?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Moved too fast...
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
Why did you buy her ANYTHING? There is an implicit message that now she has to do something for you..... like sex. AFTER she sexes you up,at least 10 times. THEN you can get her a small gift. Then it's "thoughtful"
Back off a bit, don't be so needy or easy to connect with. See if she comes around.
Back off a bit, don't be so needy or easy to connect with. See if she comes around.
I bought her flowers and a watch for Valentines day prior to that we had gone on several dates and hooked up with that said I will take your advice thank you any other input would be appreciated! This date was actually rescheduled by her and she drove out her way to meet me but i feel that she got the feelinh she was being pressured which was not my
Intention at all
Intention at all
Desdinova
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You know what I got my GF for Valentine's day? A card. Not only that, it was a card that came out of a box of Valentines I bought for my kid to fill out for school. No watch, no flowers, nothing.
She made me a card, put on some lingerie, and fvcked me senseless.
You bought all that crap for her and she didn't even fvck you. You wasted your money. Quit wasting money on chicks you want to fvck. Reward the ones who happily fvck you without receiving lame gifts from you.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.