"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Moved to new city... need some advice.

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Hey guys,

Well, I haven't been in these forums for awhile but this is the ONLY place I trust for good advice when I need it.

So basically I just moved to a new city (career move) and I know ZERO people.

1. I have my own business and work 100% from home.

2. No family in the area, at least anyone within my age range (22).

People meet naturally mainly through (a) school and (b) work. Two options not on the table for me as I am finished college and work from home.

So, lets brainstorm here. I'm not into scripted "go out and sarge like a robot" stuff nor am I only interested in only meeting women and getting laid. That's not what this post is about.

I simply would like to establish a group of friends (clique?) much like the ones in my old town, who I miss badly.

All suggestions are appreciated.

Kudos,
Roulette
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Roulette

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So, nobody has any ideas at all?
 
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If I were in your shoes, didn't know anyone, I would feel very free. Start exploring your new city.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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online communities? i'm sure you can find some wingman or start with hobbie groups
the other option is...day game. i'm sure you have errands to take care of maybe you can meet some people on the way...not on purpose but i'm sure it happens when lets say you ask a genuine question then they answer with interest and just take it from there
 
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What city do you live in roulette? Do you have any hobbies like sports and whatnot? You should try to joining some clubs, learn to dance or maybe a new skill, you'll meet lots of people that way, some of them cool, some lame but if you have something in common with them then you have a solid foundation to work with.
 
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I would look at 2 avenues. I recently moved to a new city and had no friends other than my g/f and didn't meet any people through her. The way I built a social circle was through hobbies. Once you have a hobby, its a natural way to meet like minded people. There are clubs you can join etc....

Another way is local forums. I also found this a great way to meet new people and try new things. Try doing a google search with your city name and local forums.
 
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Cool. Thanks for all who were respectful and gave some good advice. I'm actually going to join a few clubs (awesome idea!) and also enroll in a few University classes. I love to learn, so even if I don't meet any new people I'm still happy.

1. Clubs
2. Hobbies
3. Classes of any sort
4. Generally being social wherever

That's the basic plan of action.

Kudos,
Matt
 
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