"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Motivational books?

kabatura

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Anybody know any good motivational books?

I have realized recently that my former I can take over the world attitude is gone. It has been replaced with a I don't have what it takes to do anything worth doing attitude. I don't know where it came from really. Ill be finishing college in 2 semesters and I feel bad about my major of business administration, like I made a mistake picking that because it's so broad. Anyway, if you have read anything that has really gotten you going let me know.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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KarmaSutra

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PM me your email address and I'll tighten you up with some literature and some of my own stuff to get you motivated and keep you fueled for the long haul of reinventing yourself.
 

Quiksilver

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Why were you disappointed by your Business Admin program?
 

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It's not the program, I just don't know what I'm going to do right out of college. I don't want to end up as a manager at a grocery store or something.
 

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kabatura said:
It's not the program, I just don't know what I'm going to do right out of college. I don't want to end up as a manager at a grocery store or something.
Did you specialize in anything? Accounting, marketing, resource management...etc. There are no recruiters on your campus hiring? Ask your professors or even the Dean for some guidance or hook ups, they're willing to help. But some times you gotta bug them until you do.

And definitely read KarmaSutra's material. Changed my life.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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oakraiderz2

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kabatura said:
It's not the program, I just don't know what I'm going to do right out of college. I don't want to end up as a manager at a grocery store or something.
Join the club. I also have too semesters...but im a psych major...yikes.
 

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There are often job fairs and theres a career office or whatever it's called. I have never really checked those out but I will this semester.

I think it's just a mental block thing, that's why Im looking for motivational things.
 

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kabatura said:
It's not the program, I just don't know what I'm going to do right out of college. I don't want to end up as a manager at a grocery store or something.
How good is your school's career services center? My advice, go to them, take an MBTI test, and take some time to figure out what you want to do.

What's your dream job? Initially there must have been something that made you want to study business. Do any of these fields sound interesting:
  • Consulting
  • Investments
  • Finance
  • Accounting
  • Marketing

...because really, you have a valuable degree, assuming of course that you paid attention in class and that this is something that you are interested in.
 

TheHumanist

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Can't the motivational books just be listed here? Why does it have to in a private message to only one to see instead for all?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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