Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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rapsta

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Ok I'm cutting at the moment. Or I'm trying to.
So my goal is not to eat unhealthy food and practice 4-5 days a week.
But now I've started working, so I cant stick to healthy food all the time. So i ate some sweets, and now my motivation is all gone. Now I'm eating candy like a damn pig. Any tips on how to stay motivated?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Get a scale. Measure your progress daily. If the scale has a body fat indicator, that's even better. It's a huge motivator to put your daily readings into a spreadsheet and see a trend downward.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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I wouldn't just use a scale, I'd take body measurements too. We all know that muscle weighs more than fat so the weight alone will not tell the entire story. This comes into play once it seems that you aren't loosing nearly as much weight or maybe even gaining. Measure those muscles and compare your finding to your initial measurements and you may be pleasantly surprised.
 

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Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
We all know that muscle weighs more than fat so the weight alone will not tell the entire story.
Very true, although he said he was cutting so I assumed his goal was to lose weight. If you're trying to cut fat and build muscle, use a scale that measures body fat. I have a scale by Tanita that is pretty good.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I got the Tanita BF680 scale at Amazon.com. It was about $53. You maybe able to find cheaper ones.

A body fat scale measures your BF by sending an electrical signal through your body. It compares how long the signal takes to travel with your height, and can measure your BF (something to do with the amount of water in fat....I don't recall the exact physics).

The only downside is that you'll want to make sure you're sufficiently hydrated before measuring yourself. Being dehyrdrated can screw up the reading a little.
 

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Originally posted by rapsta
Ok I'm cutting at the moment. Or I'm trying to.
So my goal is not to eat unhealthy food and practice 4-5 days a week.
But now I've started working, so I cant stick to healthy food all the time. So i ate some sweets, and now my motivation is all gone. Now I'm eating candy like a damn pig. Any tips on how to stay motivated?
Bring your own lunch and food items that ARE healthy to work with you.
 

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Take a picture of yourself without a top on and look at it everyday and really look at yourself and say "I DONT WANT TO SEE THIS FAT AGAIN"
 

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Originally posted by The-Sultan
Take a picture of yourself without a top on and look at it everyday and really look at yourself and say "I DONT WANT TO SEE THIS FAT AGAIN"
lawl...that's funny but it could work. :cool:
 

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Originally posted by rapsta
Ok I'm cutting at the moment. Or I'm trying to.
So my goal is not to eat unhealthy food and practice 4-5 days a week.
But now I've started working, so I cant stick to healthy food all the time. So i ate some sweets, and now my motivation is all gone. Now I'm eating candy like a damn pig. Any tips on how to stay motivated?

We all have lapses and binge sometimes. Just remember that you probably used to eat like that on a daily basis. One day of cheating won't break you, just get back on the wagon.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by HalfAddict
Try a Drill Instructor...

He'll motivate you.
Be realistic. He needs serious advice.
 

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Hi Rapsta,

Focus on what you will get if you stick to your cutting plan.

Think about the whole world of pain you're in if you don't achieve your goal, that should keep you on track.
 

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think about people that are almost DIEING from hunger.....not just feeling like dieing but really are......people that are so hungry that they eat things equal to ****.........they would LOVE to eat a cutting diet. people who never were drinking with friends in a club/party. and people like me think alcohol is a essential human need??! people in the society think that it must be a very bad life if you can't eat candys and fast food. how ****ed up in the brain are they? AS IF EATING HEALTHY IS THE END OF THE WORLD. COMPARED TO WHAT SOME OTHER PEOPLE HAVE TO GO THROUGH IT IS A ****ING JOKE. ONLY BECAUSE THE COMPANIES HAVE MADE US TO PVSSYS THAT WE BUY THEIR **** FOOD DO WE THINK THIS WAY. BUT IT IS JUST A ****ED UP LIE.....JUST TAKE A LOOK AT ALL THE "HAPPY" PEOPLE THAT DRINK AND EAT TO GET LITTLE BIT OF PLEASURE AND THAT A LOT OF PAIN. ARE THEY HAPPY?? PVSSYS CAN NEVER BE REALLY HAPPY IN LIFE
 

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Well aint that a bytch double. nice fvcking post bro. thanks alot. thanks to you too alpine! I used to have the mindset that double had in this post while i was in the military, but i somehow lost it hehe. But its cool that you're reminding me. On monday im starting an 8 week cutting routine.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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