"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Motivate yourself NOW

frivolousz21

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MOtivate yourself-

Write down all the things good and bad about yourself.


and be honest about it..

set and make goals....

dont set dates..just set goals..and start working towards them...

weed yourself off your bad habits one at a time..take it slow..

change may take 6-12 months.


but start now..right now...at this moment set it in your mind..that your going to accept nothing but the best for yourself..


you do this.and the things around you..(women, friends, social life, school, family...will all become much easier to deal with)
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I'm Joe Dirt

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I agree.

Its really hard to explain how self-motivation works but I know I use to THINK differently before I was introduced to this stuff. Its like after years of reading stuff on the side as a little hobby almost I became more serious about wanting to become something I wasn't at the time and over time my mind shifted there.
 

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Yep, I agree totally and I believe this is a large part of the DJ mindset. If you want to be above average, you have to act now and start laying the foundations.

I wrote some of my own experiences with motivation in reply to another thread. To save repeating myself, I'll cut and paste....


Originally posted by Jariel I know the feeling and sometimes I go through a low motivation period where I let a lot of things slide. It does affect confidence in a big way, because if you're not meeting your own standards and fulfilling your duties, you are failing yourself. This is obviously very damaging to your self esteem.

Some confidence training will advise lowering your standards and learning to accept yourself in spite of falling short of your goals. Personally, I see this as false pride.

Alternatively, you can force yourself to make a start on these goals, even if you just make a slight effort you should find it soon becomes a habit. As long as you're doing something towards these goals, your motivation should grow and so should your confidence.

A lot of people have a big problem achieving their goals because they stay focused on the final result. High standards and long term goals can seem so far out of reach sometimes it doesn't seem worth trying.

But if you break them down into "sub-targets", it won't seem like such a large chore and you will see your progress more easily (good for motivation).

For example, aim to run half a mile for a few weeks, then go for 1 mile, then 2. Read 1 chapter of a book per day, then go for 2, then try reading a book per week. As for diet, start out by reducing sugar and fat, then try reducing alcohol, and so on.

Forming any habit is like learning to walk. You have to persist with the baby steps until you're comfortable going further. Eventually, it becomes a habit you barely even think about.
 

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i actually did this..bought a little memo pad and wrote down 11 goals. these are goals that I can accomplish within 1 year. with a little hard work time and dedication I should be able to make them all. Some of them are more important than others but they will all do their part in making me a better person.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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