"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Most of my friends are women...YOU GOT A PROBLEM WITH THAT??

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STR8UP said:
Some are, some aren't. No different than my guy friends. I don't have deep conversations with most of the guys I would consider friends, why should it have to be any different with the women?
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If you don't have deep convos with them (male or females)...then they are not your friends.

They are just a bunch of hang out buddies.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Latinoman said:
If you don't have deep convos with them (male or females)...then they are not your friends.

They are just a bunch of hang out buddies.
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That hurts. According to your definition, I HAVE NO FRIENDS! lol

Seriously though, if you must have deep convo's with someone to call them your friend, well, I dunno about that.

People I know fit into one of three levels.

Level 1- Close friends. These are the people who I can really share things with. Only have a few of these.

Level 2- Friends. People who I see regularly who I enjoy being around. Most of the time we aren't sharing intimate details of each other lives, but these are people who have proven themselves worthy of my time and trust.

Level 3- Acquaintances. I have LOTS of these. Most people do. These are people who I see on occasion, are friendly with, but at the same time I don't make any special attempt to pursue a stronger social bond.

Where does "hang out buddy" fit into this?

I would bet that you have two different scales for men and women when it comes to friendship.
 
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Anybody remember ROY G. BIV?

In physics we learned this acronym to remember the color spectrum. You know red, orange, yellow, and green, blue, indigo, violet.

Are there only 7 colors in the universe?

ROY G. BIV is a gross oversimplification to help us grasp the infinite spectrum.

We have no way of knowing if any two human brains “see” the same color when looking at “red”.

I think we each see the “color” of a female friend differently. I can’t make you think its “blue” if you see it as “orange”. Because, for you, it really is “orange”.
 
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STR8UP said:
That hurts. According to your definition, I HAVE NO FRIENDS! lol
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Holy sh*t, now I know on what kind of man the Mr. Big character is based on from Sex in the City. He is a total DJ, but....

Yes I watch the show, I have HBO on demand and I let the girls watch it. It's actually very funny and I crack on all the AFCs and some of the main characters.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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