She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
It's not that bad of an influence. Before there were pop songs, you'd have famous poems dedicated to love and romance and women.georgie24 said:pdubb
there should be no back and forth, its JUST WRONG preacching to the masses and BAD influence on younger men !
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Iceberg said:It's not that bad of an influence. Before there were pop songs, you'd have famous poems dedicated to love and romance and women.
As long as there have been men, there have been men dedicating their artwork to whining about women.
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what " bar" in that entire song is uplifting to a mans spirit ?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
That song disgusts me... but it's because I can't believe what Wiz turned into... damn shame.alecks said:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UhQz-0QVmQ0 this has to be added to the afc list....listen to the lyrics
"I can be your bestfriend, can you be my homie?"PDubb75 said:That song disgusts me... but it's because I can't believe what Wiz turned into... damn shame.
This is why a lot of guys think women don't need men. But this post is totally accurate. I gotta go before that back and forth bruno mars sh*t arises.JdelaSilviera said:Yes, it´s mainstream now. Men dedicate songs to the women they love, while women sing songs like "I don´t need a man". And this sh*t really does affect the way people think. Guys become wussies, and women think they own us.
Have you ever seen how weak people suddenly act strong, when they find a weaker person? Or a shy person, that overcomes her shyness when an ever shyer person arises?
That´s what you have with women, when they are with an alpha man, they are really quiet, submissive and respectful (this is a pretty good way to see if she´s attractive to you). When they realize that a guy is weak, they behave like the biggest *****es in the world.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Dude, you just blew my doors off with this. I've never looked at pop songs in this way, nor realized what the big deal with poetry was until just now.Iceberg said:It's not that bad of an influence. Before there were pop songs, you'd have famous poems dedicated to love and romance and women.
As long as there have been men, there have been men dedicating their artwork to whining about women.