You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
It's not that bad of an influence. Before there were pop songs, you'd have famous poems dedicated to love and romance and women.georgie24 said:pdubb
there should be no back and forth, its JUST WRONG preacching to the masses and BAD influence on younger men !
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Iceberg said:It's not that bad of an influence. Before there were pop songs, you'd have famous poems dedicated to love and romance and women.
As long as there have been men, there have been men dedicating their artwork to whining about women.
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what " bar" in that entire song is uplifting to a mans spirit ?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That song disgusts me... but it's because I can't believe what Wiz turned into... damn shame.alecks said:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UhQz-0QVmQ0 this has to be added to the afc list....listen to the lyrics
"I can be your bestfriend, can you be my homie?"PDubb75 said:That song disgusts me... but it's because I can't believe what Wiz turned into... damn shame.
This is why a lot of guys think women don't need men. But this post is totally accurate. I gotta go before that back and forth bruno mars sh*t arises.JdelaSilviera said:Yes, it´s mainstream now. Men dedicate songs to the women they love, while women sing songs like "I don´t need a man". And this sh*t really does affect the way people think. Guys become wussies, and women think they own us.
Have you ever seen how weak people suddenly act strong, when they find a weaker person? Or a shy person, that overcomes her shyness when an ever shyer person arises?
That´s what you have with women, when they are with an alpha man, they are really quiet, submissive and respectful (this is a pretty good way to see if she´s attractive to you). When they realize that a guy is weak, they behave like the biggest *****es in the world.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Dude, you just blew my doors off with this. I've never looked at pop songs in this way, nor realized what the big deal with poetry was until just now.Iceberg said:It's not that bad of an influence. Before there were pop songs, you'd have famous poems dedicated to love and romance and women.
As long as there have been men, there have been men dedicating their artwork to whining about women.