You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You're winning so far, that's pretty bad.krazyboy99 said:the most disrespectful thing a girl ever said to me? in my junior year i asked a girl to homecoming. her friend later told me that she would only go if i paid for her. i told her i would have to think about it. she then said "she's doing you a favor by going with you". yeah, that kind of pissed me off.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Im guessing you didnt go with her?krazyboy99 said:the most disrespectful thing a girl ever said to me? in my junior year i asked a girl to homecoming. her friend later told me that she would only go if i paid for her. i told her i would have to think about it. she then said "she's doing you a favor by going with you". yeah, that kind of pissed me off.
I'm willing to bet he did.HandyAndy said:Im guessing you didnt go with her?![]()
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That's not that bad, least you made it past 12.00.My Name is Nobody said:I have all you fools beat..Your stories are weak as hell.
I got thrown out of her apartment on my ass in a strange neighborhood @ 4am on New Years Eve when I was drunk and couldn't drive anywhere, then she turned off her phones and wouldn't answer the door.
rather say u disrespected urself!AlanB said:Loads of stuff in the past really, hence one of the reasons I have had to change and generally grow up.
One that sticks out is a woman I was going out with who started hitting and kicking me in an argument. I picked up a heavy book and told her to use that instead if she wanted to try and hurt me, she wouldn't so I started hitting myself in the face with it for her and then punched the walls until my knuckles and nose were bleeding. Not one of my finest moments but she was totally psyched out with out me having to raise a finger to her.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
No doubt but it was pretty disrespectful of her to think that she could raise her fists to me. I'm not talking a slap, I mean I stood there whilst she punched me with closed fists in the face and kicked me in the legs and stomach. It wasn't a great period of my life to be honest. When I was growing up, I used to stand there whilst my mother would throw things at me and scratch and punch me so it destroyed my self-confidence . It would have been better if I had have lived with a father who did that because nothing feels worse then taking a beating off a woman but it was just my mum so that was that. So I guess back then I was used to that sort of sh1t hence I reacted like an AFC moron.schttrj said:rather say u disrespected urself!
methink tooAlanB said:No doubt but it was pretty disrespectful of her to think that she could raise her fists to me. I'm not talking a slap, I mean I stood there whilst she punched me with closed fists in the face and kicked me in the legs and stomach. It wasn't a great period of my life to be honest. When I was growing up, I used to stand there whilst my mother would throw things at me and scratch and punch me so it destroyed my self-confidence . It would have been better if I had have lived with a father who did that because nothing feels worse then taking a beating off a woman but it was just my mum so that was that. So I guess back then I was used to that sort of sh1t hence I reacted like an AFC moron.
In hindsight (everyone has 20/20 vision hindsight) the minute she laid a finger on me I should have left, I would never raise a hand to a woman unless someone was in danger.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.