She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You're winning so far, that's pretty bad.krazyboy99 said:the most disrespectful thing a girl ever said to me? in my junior year i asked a girl to homecoming. her friend later told me that she would only go if i paid for her. i told her i would have to think about it. she then said "she's doing you a favor by going with you". yeah, that kind of pissed me off.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Im guessing you didnt go with her?krazyboy99 said:the most disrespectful thing a girl ever said to me? in my junior year i asked a girl to homecoming. her friend later told me that she would only go if i paid for her. i told her i would have to think about it. she then said "she's doing you a favor by going with you". yeah, that kind of pissed me off.
I'm willing to bet he did.HandyAndy said:Im guessing you didnt go with her?![]()
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
That's not that bad, least you made it past 12.00.My Name is Nobody said:I have all you fools beat..Your stories are weak as hell.
I got thrown out of her apartment on my ass in a strange neighborhood @ 4am on New Years Eve when I was drunk and couldn't drive anywhere, then she turned off her phones and wouldn't answer the door.
rather say u disrespected urself!AlanB said:Loads of stuff in the past really, hence one of the reasons I have had to change and generally grow up.
One that sticks out is a woman I was going out with who started hitting and kicking me in an argument. I picked up a heavy book and told her to use that instead if she wanted to try and hurt me, she wouldn't so I started hitting myself in the face with it for her and then punched the walls until my knuckles and nose were bleeding. Not one of my finest moments but she was totally psyched out with out me having to raise a finger to her.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
No doubt but it was pretty disrespectful of her to think that she could raise her fists to me. I'm not talking a slap, I mean I stood there whilst she punched me with closed fists in the face and kicked me in the legs and stomach. It wasn't a great period of my life to be honest. When I was growing up, I used to stand there whilst my mother would throw things at me and scratch and punch me so it destroyed my self-confidence . It would have been better if I had have lived with a father who did that because nothing feels worse then taking a beating off a woman but it was just my mum so that was that. So I guess back then I was used to that sort of sh1t hence I reacted like an AFC moron.schttrj said:rather say u disrespected urself!
methink tooAlanB said:No doubt but it was pretty disrespectful of her to think that she could raise her fists to me. I'm not talking a slap, I mean I stood there whilst she punched me with closed fists in the face and kicked me in the legs and stomach. It wasn't a great period of my life to be honest. When I was growing up, I used to stand there whilst my mother would throw things at me and scratch and punch me so it destroyed my self-confidence . It would have been better if I had have lived with a father who did that because nothing feels worse then taking a beating off a woman but it was just my mum so that was that. So I guess back then I was used to that sort of sh1t hence I reacted like an AFC moron.
In hindsight (everyone has 20/20 vision hindsight) the minute she laid a finger on me I should have left, I would never raise a hand to a woman unless someone was in danger.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.