Music is my main passion, always has been, and since getting the non-matrix mindset it's really sucked listening to the songs I loved growing up and wanting to throw up listening to the lyrics today. Really sucks. This is probably why I mainly listen to instrumental/upbeat dance music now.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Most AFC Songs
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
LeComteDeMonteCristo
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This post absolutely blows my mind.reset said:
A classic example of what happens when you become entrenched in sosuave dogma.
I hope I am not the only one that can see what is wrong here.
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lolBlackmm said:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Well, whatever. Most songs I grew up with (80s, 90s pop songs) sung by men, are of men supplicating and begging for love, begging to be taken back by the chick, and taking pride in letting their emotions control them. Not to say there's not a place for all emotions in music, there is.... Glad to blow your mind though.LeComteDeMonteCristo said:
50 cent get in my car " i got no pick up lines, I till the hoes all the time get in my car"paintballz said:
"T.I. let me love you remix " I was ballin before you and I'll be the same after you"
Ice cube" Last night she suck my ****, now she is kissing little man, won't he suck my **** and lets cut out the middle man"
Afro man " I love the way you grease your thighs but I'm savin my money for some chilly cheese fries"
Snoop " *****es ain't **** but hoes and tricks"
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Whoa, deffinitaly
Mario Winans-I don't wanna know
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Cash37 said:
Co-sign
RAFCToMackStatus
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Gustav Yavo said:
double co-sign.
Anything by Trey Songz is definite AFC material.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
well, if i understand it well, you are talking about backstreet boys type of music? these songs suck, matrix mindset or not. Pop from the 90s is garbage so i m glad you re done listening to that bs.reset said:
As for your first statement, that you cannot listen to songs that have "AFC lyrics" in them, i feel like that really shows your limitations when it comes to music. I m a huge hip hop fan and that s how i got into funk and, more recently, soul. Marvin gaye, al green, curtis mayfield, james brown, tower of power, the isley brothers... Ya, if you look at the lyrics from a sosuave addict point of view they suck, they re too AFC. But you are missing the bigger picture: the poetry, the powerful emotions... that s what soul is all about. Even though i m not saying I would follow their lead when it comes to women, i can still listen to these songs and enjoy them, without letting what i ve learned on here blind me to the beauty of their music
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Well, this conversation about reset's musical tastes is interesting.drak_ool said:
I wonder, since I'm in the same boat as reset, are we meant to be ashamed of ourselves for taking lyrics too seriously?
I no longer appreciate music that advocates an AFC ethos. When a musician takes the time to tell a story with words and sound, he must be somewhat convinced of the seriousness of his message or the feeling he expresses. People say its just music, but good music takes hours and hours to compose. People who express an AFC worldview in their music are serious about it, no joke, this is truly what they want to bring across.
I used to listen to Morrissey and the Smiths... can't anymore.
see, here s the problem: some of the best music and literature (especially poetry) has been written/composed by heart-broken men. And they are expressing their true feelings. I understand that you no longer share their view on life but you can't dismiss their feelings about women(and the art that they produce based on those feelings) just because you don't feel the same way.Technical1 said:
Also, there is more to a song than just the lyrics. If you like the music, then you don't necessarily have to take those lyrics to heart.
Let me put it another way: do you think everyone who listened to gangsta rap (and i m talking about the good old days of the pac-biggie feud, not the 50 cent and other various fake gangsta rappers today) was busy pimpin girls, selling drugs and trafficking weapons?
So you can still listen to the smiths and morrisey without crying yourself to sleep over some girl not returning your advances
Technical1
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:crackup: loldrak_ool said:
Perhaps eventually, yeah maybe youre right. I'm gonna go give "Every Day is Like Sunday" a listen and see if I can laugh at it from the perspective of a DJ overlooking the world from Mount Olympus.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I am a huge Morrissey and Smiths fan, I've actually posted about this... There are actually several songs that aren't depressing when you think about it. For every depressing one there's a funny one. I'd say it's half and half.Technical1 said:
But I no longer identify with the "lonely misunderstood artist", which I was for about 28 years or so, lol. But I'm also not going to just throw out my entire history. So, I listen to the smiths and morrissey still---but just not the "I am so lonely" songs.
Technical you should check out the song "at last I am born" from his new album.
I listen to just about everything. Music is my passion. I have extremely refined tastes. I'm sure I could go head to head with you and see who's "musically limited"drak_ool said:
But I like some of the stuff you mentioned. Since coming to sosuave I went from lots of depressing stuff to lots of soul, funk, disco, house, etc.
I actually like the same music I always have, but I don't RELATE and IDENTIFY with some of those heartbroken messages, like I did before. I think that's the key. I remember what it's like and sometimes It's comforting to hear, but I've changed, and the music I listen to changes as well.
But, I still listen to Depeche Mode, the Cure (especially the angry, harder/faster tracks) Smiths, on a regular basis.
Technical1
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Thanks reset, I'll check it out.reset said:
The whole lonely artist thing aside (which I understand perfectly well BTW), Morrissey and Smiths hit on some ethereal sounds which I just cant find anywhere with the same spirit. For some reason my soul is totally tuned into that frequency, NOT because I get off on sadness but because of the sound they chose. I dont like the whole jagoff sadness thing but "Every Day is Like Sunday" and other songs just resonate with me so deeply. You guys know what I mean? I feel like that music is made just for me.
not really an AFC song, but just something im listening to right now haha
http://youtube.com/watch?v=w1mgEQTMVB8
http://youtube.com/watch?v=w1mgEQTMVB8
I hear you. Funny thing is they were pretty damn unique. Lots of people try to imitate that but it's hard to do. Have you heard of Belle & Sebastian? They're kind of like that, their albums have been hit or miss over the years. Suede (london suede) is another band that comes to mind.Technical1 said:
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.