"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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More women on the planet than men?

djjizzyjeff

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More women on the planet than men? Every chick I know who's hot (even the whacky ones) are literally ALL wifed up. And it's not even by some "hot" dudes either..

I don't think I know a single hot chick who doesn't already have a boyfriend. Chicks I work with etc. Hell even the other dudes talk and it's like clockwork more chicks with boyfriends than dudes with girlfriends..

And these chicks WILL flirt regardless. It's almost like they need some other dude or dudes attention like little kids if their BF isn't around. Of course they'd completely deny it if you pressed them on it.

IMO it's a waste of time to give them attention or try to "game" chicks with BFs. They'll either use you for attention or never wind up being gf material for you in the end. I keep it cordial but don't overdo the attention and even ignore them at times. Not that it matters as there's always some other dudes who'll be circling around them to give them that ego boost till they're back with their BF.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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It's just a statistic. Women, on average live longer than men so theoretically there will be more. If you break it down by age, race, location, marital status, etc., it will probably be a different story.
 

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We also have a significant number of "single but not actively looking" females.

These are women that are publicly "single" but have a steady FWB or a few FWB plates.

If you ask about her relationship status, she's single and taking a break from men since her breakup or divorce. In other words, she's a "good girl" who is celibate because she's not in a relationship lol.

But in reality, she's secretly F-ing her ex or a bartender or a cop or a coworker. So with her sexual needs being met, she has little motivation to meet and date guys unless one pops up in her greater social circle that has serious looks/height and/or money.

So as far as the dating scene goes, she's sort of on the sidelines.

Of course, if she doesn't find her dream man, she will eventually try to make her FWB her bf because she'll get attached from all the sex.
 

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Mike32ct said:
Of course, if she doesn't find dream man, she will eventually try to make her FWB her bf because she'll get attached from all sex.
Dunno man,..women are getting less and less attached from sex these days, lol.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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djjizzyjeff

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Mike32ct said:
We also have a significant number of "single but not actively looking" females.

These are women that are publicly "single" but have a steady FWB or a few FWB plates.

If you ask about her relationship status, she's single and taking a break from men since her breakup or divorce. In other words, she's a "good girl" who is celibate because she's not in a relationship lol.

But in reality, she's secretly F-ing her ex or a bartender or a cop or a coworker. So with her sexual needs being met, she has little motivation to meet and date guys unless one pops up in her greater social circle that has serious looks/height and/or money.

So as far as the dating scene goes, she's sort of on the sidelines.

Of course, if she doesn't find her dream man, she will eventually try to make her FWB her bf because she'll get attached from all the sex.
Especially the cop part. If the dude is like 25 to 35 built and good looking. Cops get pvssy practically thrown at them due to the "power" they have over other men and the handcuff etc. thing.

Women I'm sure know a few cops and would be willing to give it up to use that card if they get pulled over in the future. "I'm friends with officer ___".

I'd be willing to bet a lot of dudes on here know of afew chicks who've "dated" cops. I'd even say they're more in demand for the hotties than even doctors, lawyers.
 
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