Somehow I don't buy it but that's the claim being espoused here:
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-12112283
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-12112283
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
More women marrying for money?
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
With the global economy the way it is if you don't buy the claim now you will buy it as things keep getting worse. It is the nature of a woman to look for a protector and there hasn't been a time where they need one more than now a days. Tough times make women value a well off man.
There's already signs that divorce rates are going down due to the economy so I believe that report is true.
There's already signs that divorce rates are going down due to the economy so I believe that report is true.
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The other thing to bear in mind is that women were MAJOR beneficiaries of the whole equal-rights movement...women were put into a lot of jobs that they may not have been qualified for...or positions that weren't even needed...to promote gender equality.
I'm not talking about professional women, I'm talking about the ones who had easily-replaceable desk jobs, administrative assistants, etc...in some cases middle management.
Women getting PAID like men is what facilitated them ACTING like men...going out clubbing on the weekends, "girl-power", and all that noise. It's also facilitated them avoiding commitment and being able to "play" for longer, because even without a man they could sustain themselves.
It's getting a LOT harder for companies to support those kinds of positions in this economy.
Thus, I'm willing to bet that "typical" women are hit pretty hard job-wise in this economy. That means they are probably seeking out the men who are still pulling down decent paychecks. Not that they would marry someone JUST for the money (I'm sure it happens sometimes), but they won't enter into a long-term deal with men without means in this economy.
It's all about providing for the kids...and to some extent themselves. Women DO have a slight entitlement complex about that crap.
I don't mind paying a woman's way on most things if I enjoy her company...I guess that makes me a target??
I swear, this whole romance-game...nothing distorts people's perceptions of reality more than it. Especially women, who seem to be more vulnerable to it. They somehow believe they are entitled to stuff for nothing. They're not strong like men, no matter how hard they try to fake it, and they have a hard time taking responsibility for their lives when social and economical conditions don't hand them what they want.
Again, not saying that it's their FAULT all the time if their lives are going in the wrong direction, but it is their RESPONSIBILITY to make sure their lives are going in the right direction.
Just like in the ocean...you're not responsible for the currents taking your boat on or off of a course...but you ARE responsible for steering it back the way YOU want to go.
I'm not talking about professional women, I'm talking about the ones who had easily-replaceable desk jobs, administrative assistants, etc...in some cases middle management.
Women getting PAID like men is what facilitated them ACTING like men...going out clubbing on the weekends, "girl-power", and all that noise. It's also facilitated them avoiding commitment and being able to "play" for longer, because even without a man they could sustain themselves.
It's getting a LOT harder for companies to support those kinds of positions in this economy.
Thus, I'm willing to bet that "typical" women are hit pretty hard job-wise in this economy. That means they are probably seeking out the men who are still pulling down decent paychecks. Not that they would marry someone JUST for the money (I'm sure it happens sometimes), but they won't enter into a long-term deal with men without means in this economy.
It's all about providing for the kids...and to some extent themselves. Women DO have a slight entitlement complex about that crap.
I don't mind paying a woman's way on most things if I enjoy her company...I guess that makes me a target??
I swear, this whole romance-game...nothing distorts people's perceptions of reality more than it. Especially women, who seem to be more vulnerable to it. They somehow believe they are entitled to stuff for nothing. They're not strong like men, no matter how hard they try to fake it, and they have a hard time taking responsibility for their lives when social and economical conditions don't hand them what they want.
Again, not saying that it's their FAULT all the time if their lives are going in the wrong direction, but it is their RESPONSIBILITY to make sure their lives are going in the right direction.
Just like in the ocean...you're not responsible for the currents taking your boat on or off of a course...but you ARE responsible for steering it back the way YOU want to go.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
sodbuster
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Whatever it takes to make their life easier. Have a female friend with a live in. He pays half her rent,groceries, [doubt if he weighs 130,so he isn't eating that much] picks up her kid after school,etc. BUT she still comes over for bedroom acrobatics with me.Can't say she's in love with him[at least not from her actions]
Who can blame her? I would put her moral compass in question but at the end of the day, she's doing what's best for herself and her situation. No one put a gun to the guy's head and forced him to support her.sodbuster said:
Any man that thinks he can simply "buy" a woman's affection should just stick to brothels and escorts; at least the sex is guaranteed.
In response to OP....this is nothing new. Historically, women married for financial security first and foremost. "Love" was just a bonus. As our economy deteriorates, more and more women will seek stable long-term providers. Hooking up and flings will be less prevalent among women except for rich socialites and full-time barhoppers. Most women I'm running into have boyfriends or, if not, are actively seeking one.