"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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More to life than sosuave.

SPEAK

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I have been an avid reader of this forum for over a year now. I admit that it has changed my life and I am forever grateful for the start it gave me on my path.

I have become obsessed with all of this stuff and have become very outcome dependant. When I first started I was just focussing on self-improvement, however now I am looking for results.

After re-reading one of my favorite books, "The Way of the Peaceful Warrior" I have rediscovered what I had once thought lost about myself. Life is a special thing, ridiculously complicated, and ridiculously simple.

I am taking a hiatus form this website and from my result-seeking mindset for at least a year. I am going to start enjoying life again and stop stressing about my petty girl problems, for problems are only what you make them.

I implore all of you to continue on your path of self-improvement and create your self to be the person you want to be. Always remember that an expert in anything dedicates their life to something and a master dedicates that something to their life.

See you all in a year,

SPEAK
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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JustLurk

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SPEAK said:
After re-reading one of my favorite books, "The Way of the Peaceful Warrior" I have rediscovered what I had once thought lost about myself. Life is a special thing, ridiculously complicated, and ridiculously simple.

SPEAK
Aah, warriorship. I have a similar book. Some of it is good advice and may let you finally have self-esteem not based on external factors, i.e. internal peace, but some of that advice is dangerous, and can mess you up if you misunderstand or take it as fully correct. I advise caution.
 

AlexLefty

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Ahh noo speak haha
I do agree with you that there is more to life than sosuave, and girls. Something I've realized and been able to do over the past little while is just be myself. Of course, not my old AFC self, but my new self, inspired by SS and other things. I've gone through the ego stage, where I thought I was the sh1t cause I found this site and had all this knowledge, I've gone through the ****y stage, induced by articles about C&F and the like, and I've gone through the desperate stage, but now, I've finally arrived at MY stage. Where I'm just me, incorporated with all the more attractive attributes and skills that I've learned. I'm not really self conciseness because I'm just doing my own thang. I'm happy and just natural. That's not to say that I don't care about girls, but I'm more focused on me. I think you might be trying to find your own me stage. Hopefully it will come to you soon enough, and hopefully you return to us on SS, good luck and have fun finding yourself.
 
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