"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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more talking the better rapport u can get?

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well i always have problems with creating rapport and havin girls flake on me,

no it didnt happen this week but i been experienmenting..

i notice the girls who had flaked on me were the girls that i talked less with..

i would get the number and wait a few days then talk to them on the phone for 5 min then ask to go out,

then i had the other girls where i would talk to them 4 times the most.. a week then ask to go out and they showed better percentage than the girls who flaked..

and my conclusion was:
u gotta build the interest with the girls to elimate the chances of flake.. u cant get them interested by for just talkin to them 3 min and gettin their number.. they know u want them.. they expect u to chase them. and if their not interest enough they will flake u.. we all know girls love the chase so they have other boys after them.. but when u show them u are better and giving them just a taste of ur personailty then it can do alot.. im not sayin talk for an hour a day.. the max i talked was probably around 10-20 min.. 4 times a week.. and it showed alot of improvement. their IL level grew ALOT.
sometimes they refuse to let me go!

i ldont like the theory of gettin the number then make the first phone call a few days later and asking for a date
of couse i wait about two days before i give them a call but i believe u should talk to them for at least a week. give them a lil taste of U so on the dates they will be in for suprise..

they will wonder "omg hes soo funny. i wonder how he is in person!"
"wow he sounds sexy.. ic ant wait to see whats hes all about"

like, I always wonder, why would girls waste their time on something they dont know about when they can get more guys? what are we to them when they first meet us? there isnt any writting on our forehead sayin PICK ME! I"LL MAKE U *** IN UR PANTS!!

i believe that its our job to make the intro.. give them a lil taste make a lil effort THEN sit back and let them chase u.. if they dont chase u then they aint worth it since u put the effort in they should too

anyone notice this?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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i believe that its our job to make the intro.. give them a lil taste make a lil effort THEN sit back and let them chase u.. if they dont chase u then they aint worth it since u put the effort in they should too

this is great
 

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poohead said:
this is great
thanks

i been wondering it for about two weeks
 

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63 views and no replies wtf guys

thought this was a DJ discussion area!
 

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bump

man come on i wanna discuss this!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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sexy_kuta said:
63 views and no replies wtf guys

thought this was a DJ discussion area!
Go find a DJ and we'll discuss this with him! :crackup:

Sorry, you asked for it.... ;)

It's now how much you say, it's what you say. What did you talk about with the ones that didn't flake on you?
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Go find a DJ and we'll discuss this with him! :crackup:

Sorry, you asked for it.... ;)

It's now how much you say, it's what you say. What did you talk about with the ones that didn't flake on you?
same **** i talk with all of them
 

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yeah, in my experience, its much better to build some rapport before getting the phone number ...i always take from 20 to 25 mins from meeting her, attracting her, building some rapport... and then getting her phone #
 
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