"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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More Really Bad Advice on "TIPS", from assasin, "Youre so Pretty" garbage

NeverFear

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Another bad bit of advice on the face page. First it was "asking a girl why she went out with you". Now its "youre so pretty, can i give you a hersheys kiss".

This is basic stuff. Never tell a woman EVER that she is attractive.

I mean, this is 101 guys.

Personally, i NEVER tell females that they attractive. They should FEEL your interest, and for that matter disinterest.

You dont lay "your so gosh darn attractive" at their doorstep like every other schmuck on the planet.

You make them work for the comliments.

Even then , they dont get the "youre so attractive" card.

That keeps the tension up, and the ball in your court.

Why are they allowing these crap posts??
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Duke

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That's a good question, dude. The kind of stuff that's making the front page is the kind of advice you'd find written by women in dating books.

Another reason sosuave is seen as ASF junior.
 

LeviathanIYG

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The Heresheys thing would work if you use it right but it's really ridiculous......

Guy should try approching and saying "Hi"
 

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This thread actually helped me when I read the Hersheys one I got so confused thats basically the exact opposite of what I'm trying to learn
 

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In actuality if you have experience and you know what you are doing you could say to a girl "you are pretty" once!, you just don't want to shower her with compliments.

The Hershey’s idea however is ridiculous I mean who is going to carry around Hershey’s when they go sarging. You are better off approaching and saying "Hi" or "You are pretty".

Just don’t say "You have nice eyes" or some**** like that.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Heh heh heh.....

Don't you know? Nothing will compliment a girl more than telling her she's pretty, then extending two melted (from carrying them around) Hershey's kisses...


lol
 

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You can tell a girl she's attractive if you're not coming from a needy, expectant AFC frame where you're looking for a reward for it. Qualifying her on something she has complete control over, like being adventurous or something, is much more effective though.
 

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This is one of THE biggest things that this site ****ed me up with.

I always tell girls that I think they are cute. Its called a statement of intent, and it can bridge the conversation from small talk to something more. Obviously you can't be a wierd wussy that oogles and say's oooh youoouurr so beautiful.

I had too many problems with girls that actually came down to them thinking I just didn't like them that much.

When i start flirting and complimenting them they actually feel MORE connection with me.


AM I THE ONLY ONE THAT THIS HAPPENS FOR?



animal crackers
 

I_Only_Live_Once

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Animal crackers, same thing happened with me before. This website is filled with so much theoretical stuff that messed me up. Telling girls they are cute has worked. As you said, it's a statement of interest.
 

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My statement of intent is a slap on the bum.

If a good looking guy says 'your cute' its a compliment, if an ugly guy says 'your cute' to a girl he's a weirdo.

If something works for you, keep doing it!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Jariel

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Originally posted by animal crackers
Obviously you can't be a wierd wussy that oogles and say's oooh youoouurr so beautiful.

I had too many problems with girls that actually came down to them thinking I just didn't like them that much.

When i start flirting and complimenting them they actually feel MORE connection with me.


AM I THE ONLY ONE THAT THIS HAPPENS FOR?
I'm glad you said this cos the same thing happens for me. I can play the cool and indifferent card for so long, but if I don't mix it up with some compliments and interest signals the girl gives up and moves on.

So I think you are right. Flirting and complimenting shows I'm interested and they start to think of me as a prospect and that's where their interest develops and where things get interesting.

Obviously it has to be balanced. Some guys lean too much towards ass kissing, then others are too guarded and cold. A lot has to do with the delivery too. A matter of fact, genuine and out of the blue compliment can be very seductive, but a kiss ass, star-stuck compliment with ulterior motives is a turn off.

This site needs more tips on the art of complimenting.
 
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