"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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More Really Bad Advice on "TIPS", from assasin, "Youre so Pretty" garbage

NeverFear

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Another bad bit of advice on the face page. First it was "asking a girl why she went out with you". Now its "youre so pretty, can i give you a hersheys kiss".

This is basic stuff. Never tell a woman EVER that she is attractive.

I mean, this is 101 guys.

Personally, i NEVER tell females that they attractive. They should FEEL your interest, and for that matter disinterest.

You dont lay "your so gosh darn attractive" at their doorstep like every other schmuck on the planet.

You make them work for the comliments.

Even then , they dont get the "youre so attractive" card.

That keeps the tension up, and the ball in your court.

Why are they allowing these crap posts??
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Duke

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That's a good question, dude. The kind of stuff that's making the front page is the kind of advice you'd find written by women in dating books.

Another reason sosuave is seen as ASF junior.
 

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The Heresheys thing would work if you use it right but it's really ridiculous......

Guy should try approching and saying "Hi"
 

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This thread actually helped me when I read the Hersheys one I got so confused thats basically the exact opposite of what I'm trying to learn
 

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In actuality if you have experience and you know what you are doing you could say to a girl "you are pretty" once!, you just don't want to shower her with compliments.

The Hershey’s idea however is ridiculous I mean who is going to carry around Hershey’s when they go sarging. You are better off approaching and saying "Hi" or "You are pretty".

Just don’t say "You have nice eyes" or some**** like that.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Heh heh heh.....

Don't you know? Nothing will compliment a girl more than telling her she's pretty, then extending two melted (from carrying them around) Hershey's kisses...


lol
 

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You can tell a girl she's attractive if you're not coming from a needy, expectant AFC frame where you're looking for a reward for it. Qualifying her on something she has complete control over, like being adventurous or something, is much more effective though.
 

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This is one of THE biggest things that this site ****ed me up with.

I always tell girls that I think they are cute. Its called a statement of intent, and it can bridge the conversation from small talk to something more. Obviously you can't be a wierd wussy that oogles and say's oooh youoouurr so beautiful.

I had too many problems with girls that actually came down to them thinking I just didn't like them that much.

When i start flirting and complimenting them they actually feel MORE connection with me.


AM I THE ONLY ONE THAT THIS HAPPENS FOR?



animal crackers
 

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Animal crackers, same thing happened with me before. This website is filled with so much theoretical stuff that messed me up. Telling girls they are cute has worked. As you said, it's a statement of interest.
 

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My statement of intent is a slap on the bum.

If a good looking guy says 'your cute' its a compliment, if an ugly guy says 'your cute' to a girl he's a weirdo.

If something works for you, keep doing it!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by animal crackers
Obviously you can't be a wierd wussy that oogles and say's oooh youoouurr so beautiful.

I had too many problems with girls that actually came down to them thinking I just didn't like them that much.

When i start flirting and complimenting them they actually feel MORE connection with me.


AM I THE ONLY ONE THAT THIS HAPPENS FOR?
I'm glad you said this cos the same thing happens for me. I can play the cool and indifferent card for so long, but if I don't mix it up with some compliments and interest signals the girl gives up and moves on.

So I think you are right. Flirting and complimenting shows I'm interested and they start to think of me as a prospect and that's where their interest develops and where things get interesting.

Obviously it has to be balanced. Some guys lean too much towards ass kissing, then others are too guarded and cold. A lot has to do with the delivery too. A matter of fact, genuine and out of the blue compliment can be very seductive, but a kiss ass, star-stuck compliment with ulterior motives is a turn off.

This site needs more tips on the art of complimenting.
 
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