"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ascalon

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I wrote about my story a few days ago.But now i continue with my "novel" in order to ask you again for help.I spent really nice night with one girl before 2 weeks.I promised to call her and to see what are we gonna do with our relationship.She was away from town for 3-4 days,so by this time i realized i didnt like her.When she came back I asked you guys to tell me what to do.Someone told me the honesty is one of the most valuable properties that belong to honourable men.

Of course i didnt talk with her about this neither after 2 days,nor after 3,nor after 4. Now she is upset and a friend of hers told me i should finally speak to her. I am really nervous now because tomorrow we will meet 100% . What should I say now , when there is nothing left to say? I even can't look at her eyes!

I hope this time my english was faultless,so plss tell me what to do (I am not sure i can do anything at all), If I fail this conversation I will loose a lot!!!!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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tell her you want to remain friends, that you dont think you are ready for a relationship.
 

ascalon

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The simplest and the best way,but not the easiest. I am not of the those guys who are afraid to talk with girls,but i wonder what will happen if our good relationship becomes into hatred??? I usually spend a lot of time with her and it will be stupid to say only "hello" , "bye".

Damn,I began to attract girls I don't really like,am I becomming a real DJ?
 
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