"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Moral dilema.

int3l

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Okay so I've got a girlfriend, we've been exclusive for a little over 2 months now and it's not bad but I'm somewhat over it. It's weird, i like being around her and and when i'm with her she's great, I'm great, we click, It's good stuff! ... It's just that when i'm not around her i can't help but be thinking of other women that i know.

Specifically a friend of hers.

Now if i was a master DJ, or a complete jerk i guess I'd just dump the girl I'm with and pursue this new interest, or spin both at once... morally this just seems wrong to me. I just don't like cheating.

Knew i should have just made friends with benefits ...

anyway, I'm a little lost as to what to do. Part of me just wants to end it but i'm in a pretty small community and word spreads fast, it'll probably give me bad rep for a long while if i go about this the wrong way. The girlfriend also seems to be pretty into me, which sucks in this situation.

Thing is, the girlfriend might be moving away to another place that's an hour or so off in a few months. Should i just aim to slowly break it off then? Seems to be the safest option but this girlfriend thing is stopping me from actively pursuing more women. ..

Anyway I'd really appreciate some feedback or something, even if it is a statement to suck it up or something, haha.

Thanks~
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Infamous_Wolf

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There is a problem with your viewpoint. You are worried what people may think about you. You need to become immune to the opinions and forced whims of others. Care about people, stop caring what they think about you. If you spent your whole life worried about if someone would disapprove, you wouldn't get anything done because there will always be someone who disapproves. You can go about this however you like, but a girl has a very sensitive array of instruments at her disposal to judge and gauge you with. She might just be able to figure out that you're just trying to get rid of her without a fuss and make one to spite you. :p
 
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If you have other girls on your mind and want to end the relationship, that's your decision, but be honest about it and tell her. You wouldn't want a girl cheating on you, so why do it to her?
 

KontrollerX

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Just persue the other girl while still with your current girlfriend and once you've established the new chick to be a stable branch swing on over to her and then dump your current girlfriend.

That way you never go without pvssy. :up:
 

Al Moh.

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like you said, it´s a moral dilemma. You should check were this moral comes from. Did someone just tell you it´s bad to cheat or branch swing? Or is this really your honest oppinion? In the first case I would go with KontrollerX´s advice. Personally I don´t like cheating or branch swinging because it seems desperate for me. If a relationship isn´t right I end it, I don´t care if there are other options, I´ll go for them when I´m done with this one (actively going for them, of couse you can warm some girl up when yur in a relationsip
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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