"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Month after being dumped

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Well it's a little over a month since my ex dumped me (I've decided it is because of her trust issues she has from the past.)

Let me tell you, IT HAS BEEN NOTHING OTHER THAN FAN-FVCKING-TASTIC!

I almost feel guilty how much I've been enjoying single life, especially this fresh out of a relationship. I'm usually the kind of guy who likes being in a relationship, and even actively pursues a "relationship." Since high school I don't think I have a combined year of single life. But goddamn, I'm quickly learning this whole single thing is a good time!

As of this post, I have 6 different plates I am actively spinning, and a handful of orbiters I have no interest in whatsoever. Picking up ATTRACTIVE (...VERY attractive) women has been nothing other than simple, and is incredibly entertaining.

I just wanted to post this for all the guys out there who have recently been dumped, and do not yet see the light at the end of the tunnel. My advice would be to start sprinting down the tunnel until you see it, because it is a glorious sight to behold.

Go NC on your ex, forget about her, go out with your buddies, HAVE A GOOD TIME (don't 'try' to pick up women), and reap the rewards. I haven't been this happy in years. Literally YEARS!

Time to quit moping around wondering what you could have done or said to fix things with her. FORGET OUT ABOUT IT AND HER! IT'S HER LOSS; AND YOU BETTER GODDAMN WELL BELIEVE IT!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Well it's a little over a month since my ex dumped me (I've decided it is because of her trust issues she has from the past.)


Nope. Girls are simple minded beings that exist on instinct and emotion. A girl would never dump someone she was attracted to, they are mostly too weak to actively get rid of something they think they need. If a girl breaks up with you it is simply because she is not attracted to you anymore. Bottom line.

Sorry son.
 

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Uplifting post, I like your attitude will come back to it when in the future. Glad your enjoying it
 

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needed this right now... yeah it's time to enjoy single free life and time to improve my game just as I always wanted :rockon:
 

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BadNews said:
As of this post, I have 6 different plates I am actively spinning, and a handful of orbiters I have no interest in whatsoever. Picking up ATTRACTIVE (...VERY attractive) women has been nothing other than simple, and is incredibly entertaining.
Sounds like you are doing very well. I think most guys here put up such an emotional shield around themselves that they would not allow themselves to even be in a position where they might get dumped (protect that heart). A lot of guys are so afraid of getting dumped that they will avoid becoming involved in any sort of relationship with a woman. Being dumped can hurt, a lot, but it is not the end of the world like so many guys portray it here.

It sounds like you have used the emotion and energy from your split to get out there and get back on the horse, so to speak. I think that's important. If you split up and then lose all your forward momentum that's when you can really sink into a depression.

BadNews said:
Go NC on your ex, forget about her, go out with your buddies, HAVE A GOOD TIME (don't 'try' to pick up women), and reap the rewards.
Good mindset. But be aware that there are a lot of guys who can go out and "not try to pick up women" and will go home alone.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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bradd80 said:
yeah i'd disagree about the part of not trying to pick up women.. every time went through a bad breakup i always ended up going out with a better, hotter girl.. great attitude in feeling better now that it's over but never close down your options!

I agree 110% Bradd. What I meant by "don't try to pick up women," was simply don't be the creepy guy out there just trying to pick up some pvssy. I find I have a ton of success if I'm just out having a good time, and allow women to enjoy that good time/energy with me. It should never feel like you're 'TRYING.'

What I mean to say is: relax, enjoy yourself (this is extremely attractive to women) and if you want to hit on a girl then DO IT! But don't overwhelm yourself with the pressure that you're out to pickup women, it should come naturally.
 
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