Sasha
Don Juan
How the fck do you go on dates when you have no money!
(And no fcking wise azz commenst like "get a job")
(And no fcking wise azz commenst like "get a job")
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Money!
- Thread starter Sasha
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
MacAvoy
Banned
Make them pay. I've done it but it has to be w/ women that you've already been hung out w/. And it hard azz to do, but can be done. Takes lotz and lotz of shytzna on your part.
brenbaus
Senior Don Juan
Find something cheap that either you can pay for both of you ( I know its hard, I am a college kid, broke as h3ll......).
Something like coffee, where she can pay for herself, or you can go to the riverwalk (if you have something like that where you live, it usually works well for me, nice and quiet, you can get to know the girl better).
Or you can rent a movie, and just chill on the couch (works better if you have known the girl for a while, not really a first date idea)
Something like coffee, where she can pay for herself, or you can go to the riverwalk (if you have something like that where you live, it usually works well for me, nice and quiet, you can get to know the girl better).
Or you can rent a movie, and just chill on the couch (works better if you have known the girl for a while, not really a first date idea)
do stuff that doesnt cost money, like take walks, go swimming, take hikes etc. Also make sure you pick the right time during the day. You dont want her getting hungry on ya during ur hike. Also you could try biking.....i asked a couple of girls to go biking this summer i got two to agree to go. It was a good time....they had a hard time doing it though which was kinda annoying.
brenbaus
Senior Don Juan
or, you could get a job!Originally posted by Sasha
(And no fcking wise azz commenst like "get a job")
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Mr. Cardio
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Well I m new here, but froming readin the site and from experience, dont go on dates, meet her somewhere or go places that have no charge. I believe dates like dinner and a movie are for relationships, and relationships that have been build up, not for people just tryin to get to know each other. Action places are great, hell, skate in the park, take a walk, be creative, but most importantly, stay true to yourself.
brenbaus
Senior Don Juan
and what would you call going to the park or taking a walk on the beach at dusk?
Mr. Cardio
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no bren...i think you misunderstood me, I m no expert on this site, but I was talking about the usual causal let me get your phone number so we can go to a movie type of thing, where, basically, it looks like a date, instead, it should just be a get together as you said on the beach or in the park or whereever. Just my opinion.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
sunsets and stargazing