"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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i've started going out with a new 21 year old girl and she's a student with little money. Up to now i've prob payed 66% of the costs and we've intentionally done cheaper things however I want to do more and I know she can't afford it. I make good money so I don't mine paying however this could become serious and I dont want to ruin it by making myself her sugar daddy. If I keep paying she may just see me like that.

any ideas? And I know, I wouldnt normally date one so young.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Charlie said:
...any ideas? And I know, I wouldnt normally date one so young.
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You pay for what you get...
 
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how old are you? if you are in your 30s and talking about getting serious with a 21 year old you are nuts.

a 21 year old is nothing but a sex toy.
 
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Don't they say the difference between a hooker and a girlfriend ...is the

hooker is cheaper ?


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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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My coworker who is 35 and divorced with FIVE kids just got ENGAGED to a 21 year old.

I am afraid he is in for a world of hurt.
 
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If you are taking your broke girlfriend to the movies, dinner, etc. and paying, you are OK.

If you are paying her school tuition, or her rent, you might be a sugar daddy.
 
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Charlie said:
i've started going out with a new 21 year old girl and she's a student with little money. Up to now i've prob payed 66% of the costs and we've intentionally done cheaper things however I want to do more and I know she can't afford it. I make good money so I don't mine paying however this could become serious and I dont want to ruin it by making myself her sugar daddy. If I keep paying she may just see me like that.

any ideas? And I know, I wouldnt normally date one so young.
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Women are typically an expense and rarely an asset. Spend at your comfort level and you shouldn't have a problem.


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My coworker who is 35 and divorced with FIVE kids just got ENGAGED to a 21 year old.

I am afraid he is in for a world of hurt.
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Things seem really clear when you're looking in from the outside.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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what types of costs are you incurring, like dinner dates or something? That doesn't seem like such a big deal to me. Imo, you're doing the right thing by staying fairly cheap, though. Why should people feel the need to spend a bunch of money all the time in order to have fun?

I think women will always see you as a sugar daddy to some extent because men usually make more money, and ultimately it's (hopefully) gonna be the wife who stays home to raise the kids while the dad goes out and earns income. The important thing is, before you get to that point, to make sure that she likes you for more than your money.

and get a prenup
 
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