Moment of clarity about looks

[RichardTheFrog]

I just had this moment of clarity about how girls view looks on guys. It happened because I was on Badoo and it shows other guys profiles on the top.

I think that there are probably a small percentage of guys who are either extremely attractive or extremely ugly, but the vast majority of guys fall into the category of "good enough" as long as they possess the other qualities they're looking for.

Confidence, height, muscles, maybe clothes. Maybe money but that would only make up for lacking in something else. Smile is important.

But you can take the same guy and put him in a different place in the world and they would be completely different in girls eyes.

Is George Clooney attractive? Only because he's a famous actor. If he was your plumber, nobody would give a fvck about him. Certainly wouldn't call him sexiest man alive.

The same person could be entirely different in terms of attractiveness depending on if he's social, has lots of friends, has dated hot girls before, etc. It's not all about looks but just the persona that they give off.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

My ex gf is probably 8/10 looks. I'm probably about the same; maybe 9 on a good day. Her new bf is probably a 6, squat, balding, beaver looking fella. Go figure.

Best fix up mate. Enough of this bs. Keep it up and I'll be recommending a ban for you, sunshine.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

My ex gf is probably 8/10 looks. I'm probably about the same; maybe 9 on a good day. Her new bf is probably a 6, squat, balding, beaver looking fella. Go figure.

Best fix up mate. Enough of this bs. Keep it up and I'll be recommending a ban for you, sunshine.

Don't call me sunshine.

Plus, your post makes no sense since you said her new boyfriend is a 6.

 

[zekko]

Confidence, height, muscles, maybe clothes. Maybe money but that would only make up for lacking in something else.

I know they locked your other thread for suggesting money could attract women, but I think the idea that a man being financially successful and powerful is not an attraction factor is just ridiculous. The thing is with men, it's usually a combination of things that allow them to attract women.

I think you're right about the way women view looks, though. Basically, women have looks, and men do. Men are about action, it's about their personality, and who they are that make them attractive. Most guys fall toward the middle on the attraction scale. The extremely attractive Ryan Gosling types are very rare. The ugly guys aren't quite as rare, but definitely a minority.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

I know they locked your other thread for suggesting money could attract women, but I think the idea that a man being financially successful and powerful is not an attraction factor is just ridiculous. The thing is with men, it's usually a combination of things that allow them to attract women.

I think you're right about the way women view looks, though. Basically, women have looks, and men do. Men are about action, it's about their personality, and who they are that make them attractive. Most guys fall toward the middle on the attraction scale. The extremely attractive Ryan Gosling types are very rare. The ugly guys aren't quite as rare, but definitely a minority.

But Ryan Gosling wouldn't be as attractive if he was a plumber. It's not just his looks. It's his fame.

Yea anyone who doesn't think money can attract females is stupid.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Don't call me sunshine.

Plus, your post makes no sense since you said her new boyfriend is a 6.

It makes perfect sense. You bang on about looks all the time. You're either ignorant, autistic or you're a troll. Time to buckle up or fck off sunshine. I have one of the longest fuses on this forum, but you're starting to p!as even me off now.

Fix up, or jog on, son.

 

[PeasantPlayer]

I agree what people deem good looking in Hollywood is laughable to me. I've seen way prettier women then j.lo at the puerto rican parade on average. And Pitt and Clooney are not that great looking either. People are just brainwashed, like that Jeremy Meeks dude, dude is hideous but took 1 good picture and has blue eyes....hmmmm

 

[RichardTheFrog]

It makes perfect sense. You bang on about looks all the time. You're either ignorant, autistic or you're a troll. Time to buckle up or fck off sunshine. I have one of the longest fuses on this forum, but you're starting to p!as even me off now.

Fix up, or jog on, son.

What you said contradicted yourself.

And nobody cares about your fuse, cupcake.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

What you said contradicted yourself.

And nobody cares about your fuse, cupcake.

Even fewer people than nobody care about your 'looks' issues sunshine. You've had plenty of warnings, and after 2000 posts in six months, you've added precisely zero value to this group.

 

[doctor1996]

This guy hasn't even read the DJ bible lol. But I do the same, I whine sometimes, but one of the steps to recovery is not to whine. You have to fix yourself. This guy isn't mature lol

 

[zekko]

But I do the same, I whine sometimes, but one of the steps to recovery is not to whine.

The OP has had many whining threads, but I don't believe this is one of them.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

The OP has had many whining threads, but I don't believe this is one of them.

Too bad the boy cried wolf once too many times.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

This thread isn't whiney at all. Actually it seems kind of positive.

Yea the point is actually that looks shouldn't be an issue for me. I think I'm probably slightly above average anyway. But I also think I look better in person than online.

 

[zekko]

This thread isn't whiney at all. Actually it seems kind of positive.

Yeah, the thread title talks about a moment of clarity, maybe we're seeing some growth here. I thought he made a good observation.

I hope the OP does get over his body dysmorphic disorder (if it's that severe). But I also know that such self esteem issues can be deep seated and very difficult to get over. I also think that SoSuave can actually be discouraging at times for some, because many posters like to talk about the results they get based on their looks. You shouldn't compare yourself with others, but that can be difficult also.

 

[Desdinova]

Time to buckle up or fck off sunshine. I have one of the longest fuses on this forum, but you're starting to p!as even me off now.

Let's close this thread before TMK loses his 5hit.