Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Mods: Do permanently banned members ever get a 2nd chance?

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Black Widow Void

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My subject theme is intended as a friendly question.
Occasionally, when a member is banned, other forum members will speak up to ask why. It's only optional for a Mod to reply and when they do I can usually appreciate their willingness and candor. After reading various rebuttals I do believe that they are lenient and not heavy handed with banning. It's my understanding that they generally give warnings beforehand. In fact when I look on my ignore list, it's easy to see why members earned their 'banned status.'

I was not asked to appeal on behalf of a particular banned member. In fact, he's gotten under my skin a time or two (I offered him a phone call to give advise and was told that I was "too old to understand").Nevertheless, despite perceiving this as biting the hand willing to feed, I didn't take it personalty. Instead, I eventually quit responding to his e-mails (written after he was banned) .

Unlike other members that were antagonistic, confrontational, combative etc.... biggoal wasn't any of these, but simply frustrated a lot of forum members (including myself).

Lately, there seems to be an endless supply of postings of the "you ain't Alpha" or "women are bytches" variety.
I mean no offence, but lately the waters here have been more stagnant (it's becoming less seldom to see new members or new members remaining active).

I have no personal dog in this fight. As some of you may (or many not) have noticed, I make an attempt to make the new member feel welcomed and typically stick up for the newbie getting bullied by some veteran members. Yes, the dude got on my nerves at times (and I openly lashed out at him on this forum) however, he was never confrontational to any one. And for that reason, I raise an appeal.

I realize that you (mods) really went the extra mile for this particular member. Seeing as though the forum hasm't been as active lately and he's been banned for over a year, I thought that I'd see if you guy's might give him a conditional reinstatement?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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