"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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MODS - Chat function?

ebracer05

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I think that would be a nice addition to the website. Some sort of chat function where you can IM in real time rather than send PMs or update an existing thread. I don't know if a function like that is compatible with the framework of the site or not, but I think it would be a good idea. Anyone else think so?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If my memory serves correctly, the site had a chat function back in the early 2000s, but it was a pain in the ass to moderate. Members here have started their own sosuave chatrooms over the years, so feel free to start one if you'd like.
 

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Desdinova said:
If my memory serves correctly, the site had a chat function back in the early 2000s, but it was a pain in the ass to moderate. Members here have started their own sosuave chatrooms over the years, so feel free to start one if you'd like.
Your memory is still good, despite your old age.

Penkitten used to have one on ICQ, but that was years ago.
 

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it actually still exists on a free chat site. last time i was there - there was a couple of people in there.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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penkitten said:
it actually still exists on a free chat site. last time i was there - there was a couple of people in there.
Haha, penkitten... it must have been a LOOOOONNNGGGG time since you were in there then. It was basically me and two other guys, and the last time more than one person was in there at a time was probably December.
 

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PDubb75 said:
Haha, penkitten... it must have been a LOOOOONNNGGGG time since you were in there then. It was basically me and two other guys, and the last time more than one person was in there at a time was probably December.
yah.... it has been a very long time.
there was a video chat going in a different room by a different member. i don't think it is still happening either.
 
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