"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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week 17 day 7:

chill out watched a video

went and played pool for a bit too
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Week 17 Tasks:

- Gym x 4 (with 1 day doing sets with new gym buddy)
Failed - annoyed this week, on lates and busy so only managed twice which isnt good enough, but i did have football and bike ride so not as bad.
- Finish reading Waldens boot camp
Semi done read another page
- 1 Pook article
Done
- Save more spending money for holiday
Done got to 370 now
- Buy a few clothes for holiday
Done got some shorts 3/4 lnegth a t shirt
- Keep busy
Done played football, cinema, pool, gym, bike ride
 

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Week 18 Tasks:

- Gym 5 times (make up for last week plus 12 days till holiday)
- Finish walden
- Read 1 pook
- Get organised (tidy room, car, desk at work)
- Make a list for what i need to bring for holiday
- Meet up with HBslim isolation
- Buy Condoms :)
- want to get to 12.5stone weight this week so more food and gym
- Go out
 

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Week 18 day 1:

Got to the gym 45 minute session, which is slightly longer then i normally go for i want to push myself a bit more now, more weight and to go there slightly longer. When there a new gym worker came over to me asking me loads of questions about work out etc and complimenting me on my shape i think he is a PT and at first i was thinking he was touting for buisness. But he seemed pretty cool and said if i need help or have questions to ask him.

rented a movie that i wanted to see for ages

pretty much chilled the rest of the day, the previous week was a kinda time out just relaxing not going out, saving cash and doing some stuff like computer games films etc

spoke to hbslim briefly on msn she is still on holiday and was just on msn, i only spoke for about 2 minutes before i had dinner, but she seems to be having a good time and still seems to want to **** the **** outta me ;)
 

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Week 18 day 2;

Went to the gym 40 min session, another new gym assistant and she was hot really nice ass

went to bed a bit early and watched a film van wilder 2
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Week 18 day 3:

Well i was informed during the day i have football training, must have been a good 2 hours there in the evening decent session.

my tickets for holiday have arrived!

i have made a basic list of the clothes shoes, electronic equipment i need for holiday, just need things like passport and some small things added

and read a pook article
 

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Week 18 day 4:

Tidied my desk at work, cleared all the post it notes, put all the spare pens sissors etc in my draw etc

Went to the gym for 30 minutes but it was a fast paced one barely any rest time between the sets.

HB slim came back, i said i was going to collect my present tomorrow, she put but joking resistance, i ignored and she then replied again saying do i still have a six pack (random) i said maybe i let you find out tomorrow when i get my present maybe i dont,

so she caved saying she was really horny now.

went to see film at the cinema with a few mates.

Also found out that we are going out on friday, and going to a festival on saturday, and maybe a bike ride on sunday.
 

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Week 18 day 5:

Work went really quick, confirmed that i am going round hbslims tonight, asked if i wanted my present wrapped, i said do what you want.

she also challanged me in the gym after i said she wouldnt be able to keep up with me, so she asked what we are betting on, i said i will think about it.

immediate thought were a lapdance from her, but i dont know what i'd want to do it i somehow lost (lol yeah right)

i will up[date this later, im not sure how long i am staying round there as she is meeting a female friend later in the evening. Im going for at least a kiss i think thats not out of the question at lil, little bit nervous i suppose but bit excited too

in the mean time just about to head out to the gym
 

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really you shouldnt care just be fun and playful but dont take ****. I go out to have fun not to concentrate on women
Well, that about sums it up.

Have fun with hbslim :cool:
 

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right update, got invited to go to a bar, and to bring couple of my mates, i still went round hbslims first, she got me a wrist band thing (leather weaved) and these salt and pepper rabbits made from china, that put together are ****ing.

they had workmen round and her parents and brother, so we just talker in her living room, before i said i was going to meet my mates who were at the bar, while she was going to pick up er friends.

we were in there for like an hour before they turned up, and my mates had to go as one has work at like 3 am, so it was me with 3 girls,

so we were just messing around laughing joking them telling stories, i warned them they cant talk about hand bags, at this point i was a little bit annoyed that nothing happened at her house, so i upped the kino, tickling barging.

when hbslim went to the toilet, her friend hbt came and spoke to me (yea the girl talk) asked if i like her she really likes me isn't normally like her, she has been messed around. At first i accused her of digging for information, then i realised i better turn a tad more serious, so i did admit i like her

they went and danced and i keep talking t hbslim, eventually i said i was going soon as i had work felt a bit like a lemon as i didnt want to dance, hb was hanging round me, i said i wanted to get something to eat and she should come with me, we got a crappy mac d's i only ate half my burger,

i then told her she can walk me to my car as i gotta go, we speak for about 5 minutes there, we linked arms on the way, then she goes i better let you leave, so she hugged me, then when we started to separate i brushed my cheek against hers and then kissed her, we made out for about 1 minute really nice kiss, hugged again i let her go and felt awesome in the car afterwards

so GJ me kiss closed the night after isolating the target, and left it there so now its moved on a level, and that was the hardest part for me is the first kiss and it was ez, i made a joke saying she was going red and she go all embarrassed too :)
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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week 18 day 6:

Tidied my room a little bit by getting some clothes ready for my holiday

Took a break from the gym as i have been 4 times this week already

went out, hb slim was coming but the lads all met up previously, by the time we got to the club, after about an hour we were kissing dancing grinding etc

the last hour was cool, we sat down in the seated area, she had her legs over me and was leaning on me stroking me stomach and occasionally making out very good night :)
 

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Week 18 Tasks:

- Gym 5 times (make up for last week plus 12 days till holiday)
Got 4 done, and football training took the other day away
- Finish walden
- Read 1 pook
done
- Get organised (tidy room, car, desk at work)
done
- Make a list for what i need to bring for holiday
done
- Meet up with HBslim isolation
done
- Buy Condoms
forgot
- want to get to 12.5stone weight this week so more food and gym
done
- Go out
done
 

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Last week, #19 Tasks

-Gym 3x
-Football training
-Pack Suitcase
-Meet with friends
-get anything i need for my holiday
- change money into euro's
 

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Week 19 day 1:

Been very busy last few days and need to catch up with some updates

went to this festival, was a good day and very funny loads of mates out having a good time well into the early mornings, met hbslim there for a bit but mainly was with my friends all day, she kept rining to find out where i was so she could see me.

Week 19 day 2:

Went bowling with hbslim hbt and my friend, then chilled out at a lake at night, made it offical that we are a couple felt it was the right time. She seems alot better then i first thought, much more sweet and affectionate, and a bit shy.

Week 19 day 3:

Went to the cinema, had football training so tired i feel like i am dieing lol one thing i am not too happy with is that we havnt done anything really just me and her, so i will correct that, tomorrow she has invited me round after work, i think i know why ;) otherwise i am going to go home and rest work has been bad all week very busy people on holiday and it is going so slow, i think it will be good to go away as i dont want to get in the pattern of seeing her so much.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Week 19 day 4:

After work made it down to the gym first time this week, been exhuasted and had football the day before, only there for 20 minutes though, still very tired but i get rest this evening

went roung my ladies house, lots of kissing and touching, her sitting on me, we didnt do anything as she said she didnt want to today, but my god did she want me, i kept teasing the **** outta her pulling away from kissing, or getting her worked up then stopping completely, and all her tricks didnt work on me. Now she wants to pretty much rape me. This friday

we got some pizza and met her friend and then i left so they had a girlie night in, just chilling before going to bed, going gym the next 2 days then im off on holiday. I must sort out my money tomorrow and get the little things sorted then packed.
 

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my god did she want me, i kept teasing the **** outta her pulling away from kissing, or getting her worked up then stopping completely, and all her tricks didnt work on me. Now she wants to pretty much rape me. This friday
(chuckling in a sinister way)
Very good, Modro. You The Man :cool:
 

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week 19 day 5:

Had a big drink in the evening about 12 people out, was a funny evening went a a place we dont normally go to everyone had a laugh.

one thing i think shows some maturity progress, had a 1 on 1 with one of my freidns whos in a odd spot with a girl, i normall ynever had those types of chats too much being silly, but i told him what i thought and after speaking to both parties, i was 100% correct i feel like i got a psycology degree out of all this research haha
 

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Dude, it's inspirational! no other words can describe it! seriously, well done :)
 

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Week 19 day 6:

Well the last official day decided to wait till after my holiday before posting

she came round before i went as i had to leave at 12pm and waited till i had to go in that time, we were 'busy' 3 times during this.

Holiday review:

Well obviously i was thinking nothing was gong to happen to me whilst there, well it did... basically my friends started speaking to 2 girls in the pool and invited them out with us i wasnt there at the time.

But during the night i was being harsh to one of them DJ style, she was saying we weren't friends and i just smiled knowing that she wasnt really hating me, well we ended up grinding later that night and just holding hands back to the hotel.

they then joined our group for the rest of the holiday, and i ended up pulling her through out and had a fumble one time in her hotel room, she had a slim body and nice breasts 32DD ;) i could have gone all the way but i thought it would be too harsh for HBslim to do that. I do feel bad but at the end of the day i think i would have regretted not pulling her.

But the holiday as a whole was really good, i had a brilliant time and its something that i needed, just get out the country and have some fun.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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