"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
MODERATORS - What happened with all the "Master Don Juan" titles???
- Thread starter Tantric
- Start date
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
De La Soul
Master Don Juan
That's why some people have been promoted, others demoted, and some have stayed the same.
In your case, Tantric, we didn't think you really deserved your Master Don Juan title, and so we stripped it from you until you EARN it.
We feel that you still needed a few more quality posts to prove yourself. I think two or three more good posts should get you over the line.
De La Soul
Guitar_Whizz
Master Don Juan
De La Soul
Master Don Juan
I just spoke with a couple of the other moderators, and they actually think you were a little hard-done-by not getting at least Senior DJ status. I'm almost certain that you'll get it with a couple more posts.
Guitar_Whizz,
Pook's status was one of the more hotly debated issues. (We only considered accounts that have been active within the past 9 months) We actually decided to give him Senior DJ status for a strange reason - he is worshipped! We figured that people already take his advice like medicine and there are an over-abundance of posts asking Pook for advice that to give him the highest possible status would be against everything he has preached, and his followers would increase to uncontrollable numbers, probably flooding the board with questions to Pook.
However the matter is still under consideration and may yet be changed.
EDIT: Just to let you know, Tantric, your status has been upgraded. Congrats.
De La
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Starman
Master Don Juan
and has good intentions of helping people out with what he knows..
so I think he deserves it..
Guitar_Whizz
Master Don Juan
I also agree. Everyone knows Pook is the ultimate DJ. He is a shining example. How could he NOT be given master dj status?
Lone_raider
Senior Don Juan
CyranoDeBergerac
Master Don Juan
Now, here's my question. If you have some determination of how far and in what areas a DJ has achieved, then vice versa, can you offer some constructive criticism on which avenues need to be more closely examined?
Squy
Master Don Juan
You are kidding right?
From what I've seen, you are to remain "senior DJ" until your 500 post, then you'll be "Master DJ". Correct me if I'm wrong on the number
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
I think he had everyone going for a minute. No one has enough time to look at everyones post and decide if they're a 'Master DJ' or 'Senior DJ'.
indianDJ
Don Juan
Nosferatu
Don Juan
Pook's posts usually contain significant grammatical errors. Until this is corrected, I recommend holding His Worshipfulness back a grade.
Just kidding, of course. I have a lot of respect for the Pookster.
Nosferatu
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Aztec
Master Don Juan
I'm glad to see a veteran still hanging around. How are you Dee-Zy?Originally posted by Dee-Zy
I'm still master Don Juan.
That's all what matters
GHOST
Ranking posters has been a legitimate request to Allen for a long time. Remember, a person reaching a Master Don Juan status just because he keeps reposting the word "bump" until he hits post # 110 (or something)?
I don't want to start that "Back in our days..." stuff again. But when I started, people post great ideas and no personal attacks.
I applaud DJ Forum's pioneers who are still hanging in there and enduring occasional charades that we have here.
Thanks for "hearing" me out.
Aztec
Dee-Zy
Master Don Juan
I'm kinda pissed at how the board turned out. Things change - but I don't think the board changed for the best. This is just my MO though, I have been wrong and I can be wrong. No offense to anybody - that's just how I feel.
We should get a petition to pressure Allen to go back and convince the Ol' timers to come back.
GHOST