"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Moderators! It's time for a bit of enforcing!

Aerospace

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I've got an idea. From now on you should immediately forbid posts that are:

* Whiny
* Useless
* Narcissistic

I mean: we all come here to seek two things:

* MOTIVATION
* EXPERIENCE

We just want experiences and techniques we could possibly use. I'm sick and tired of whiny wussy cry-baby pussies who do not read The Bible. And what about the incessant trolling?

Please, change your policies and make them a bit more strict. I'm sure everyone here will appreciate that.

So: DO NOT POST unless your post may help someone, or instruct someone in any way. Please keep your bad mood to yourself, and it will be even easier for you to gather a better mood by standing here with your virtual so-sosuave friends.

:up:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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cjyogz

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I agree you with there man, i only just joined this board, but i know from previous boards that this sorta thing can be really annoying, and the fact the people come here to get experience is a pretty essential point to take into consideration.

I myself, am working through DJ bible at the moment, i mean...do u guys know how many pages there ****en are, i'll be dead by the time i read it all, haha. But just so i don't get bulleted, i posted this topic http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=103186 because i'm still reading the bible and would like some on the spot help.

But i totally agree where u are coming from Aerospace.
 

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Ditto, Jody!

Shezz may the living proof that optimism and endurance definately pay on the long run. He designed his special dj'ing pattern and lands chicks like there's no tomorrow! Read some of his recent posts! :yes:

Just be confident and practice a lot, most importantly try and have fun, and the rest will adjust by itself!
 

The Truth

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yeah this site is going to hell and needs some strict moderating!

Shezz is right too. You should always be taking action and should only use this site to guide you and get feedback on your progress.
 

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Thats what i have done, i've gone through the bible, and saved all the articles that i think i will benefit from, onto my computer. (only cause i'm not online constantly). It'll take me ages to read it all because i'm not going to sit here all day and read it, i'll do segments, then go try it, that way it'll stick to the system.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Aerospace said:
I've got an idea. From now on you should immediately forbid posts that are:

* Whiny
* Useless
* Narcissistic

I mean: we all come here to seek two things:

* MOTIVATION
* EXPERIENCE

We just want experiences and techniques we could possibly use. I'm sick and tired of whiny wussy cry-baby pussies who do not read The Bible. And what about the incessant trolling?

Please, change your policies and make them a bit more strict. I'm sure everyone here will appreciate that.

So: DO NOT POST unless your post may help someone, or instruct someone in any way. Please keep your bad mood to yourself, and it will be even easier for you to gather a better mood by standing here with your virtual so-sosuave friends.

:up:
WHO THE F*CK ARE YOU TO MAKE RULES,ITS UP TO THE MODERATORS DON'T TELL WHAT YOU THINKS,YOUR JUST A MEMEBER LIKE ME OR ANYONE ELSE YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO EVEN BE MAKING A THREAD LIKE THIS,IF THE MODS THINKS ITS A PROBLEM THEN LET THEM HANDLE IT,BUT IF THEY DON'T THEN THERE IS NOTHING HAPPENING.LET ME QUOTE YOU"So: DO NOT POST unless your post may help someone, or instruct someone in any way. Please keep your bad mood to yourself, and it will be even easier for you to gather a better mood by standing here with your virtual so-sosuave friends."
HAHA THATS A JOKE,YOU SOUND LIKE YOU OWN THIS SITE,IF YOU DON'T LIKE THE THREADS THEN DON'T READ THEM SIMPLE AS THAT.AND THIS IS A FORUM ANYONE CAN EXPRESS THEIR FEELINGS YOUR FULL OF SH*T WHY WON'T YOU JUST GO TO ANOTHER FORUM OR BETTER YET MAKE YOUR OWN FORUM DON'T SPEAK FOR THE MODERATORS.Sorry I caps locked my typing I am kinda angry at this guy,plus your thread is a waste of space..NEXT!
 

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dreamxhenry said:
WHO THE F*CK ARE YOU TO MAKE RULES,ITS UP TO THE MODERATORS DON'T TELL WHAT YOU THINKS,YOUR JUST A MEMEBER LIKE ME OR ANYONE ELSE YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO EVEN BE MAKING A THREAD LIKE THIS,IF THE MODS THINKS ITS A PROBLEM THEN LET THEM HANDLE IT,BUT IF THEY DON'T THEN THERE IS NOTHING HAPPENING.LET ME QUOTE YOU"So: DO NOT POST unless your post may help someone, or instruct someone in any way. Please keep your bad mood to yourself, and it will be even easier for you to gather a better mood by standing here with your virtual so-sosuave friends."
HAHA THATS A JOKE,YOU SOUND LIKE YOU OWN THIS SITE,IF YOU DON'T LIKE THE THREADS THEN DON'T READ THEM SIMPLE AS THAT.AND THIS IS A FORUM ANYONE CAN EXPRESS THEIR FEELINGS YOUR FULL OF SH*T WHY WON'T YOU JUST GO TO ANOTHER FORUM OR BETTER YET MAKE YOUR OWN FORUM DON'T SPEAK FOR THE MODERATORS.Sorry I caps locked my typing I am kinda angry at this guy,plus your thread is a waste of space..NEXT!
At the end of the day i agree with dreamxhenry its free speech and if u dont like it dont read, simple.
 

Aerospace

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Sorry, I assumed I was with intelligent people who knew what to desire from a decent message board. Sadly, this is not the case. Do you want the trolling and the whining? What's the point?

dreamxhenry, calm down and try and grow a little. You're not even worth an answer if you speak like an imbecile. Turn Caps Lock off. Do you realize your double standard, my imbecile friend? If you do not like my post, why don't you use your 'forum ethics' and ignore it? It seems you like to abuse of democracy till it becomes rubbish, polluting this forum with your nonsense. I repeat it once more: what's the point in allowing whining, self-commiserating or bragging and trivial threads? Freedom should not be confused with mayhem. You're American, I should not even need to teach you such a lesson.

EDIT: I had a chance to read your thread "we are all losers". Best compliments on your motivating skills, dreamxhenry! I feel a little repent having answered your insipid and desperate answer. By the way I hope you'll take a little time to explain me what is the point in your idiotic commiseration. Why aren't you getting your ass in gear? Would you be happier to be a better person, and not someone who tries to put everyone else down to his level? I'm sure you'd be. Work on it, mate. You deserve it more that the humiliation you're inflicting on yourself.

I'm waiting other replies. And where are the mods? :confused:
 

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I agree with Aerospace.

The only purpose the pathetic posts serve is to reassure me that there's much bigger losers out there than myself, not a very positive thought.
 

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When people tell their sob stories it seems kind of like whining... right?

But if people don't tell their stories, how can more experienced people give advice????

I think I gain alot from reading someone's story about how crappy their girl situation is and then getting to read a well thought out reply that gives me ideas and encouragment.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I actually find these forums relatively void of trolls.
I mean, I've seen *******s post wisecracks at people once in awhile, and there is are occasional trollish posts now and then.

But compared to many places, this forum is heaven. I can just name one place off of the top of my head. The forum for the game Second Life. I've played that game, and visited their forum. Trolls everywhere. People all over the place complaining about the trolls. And garbage moderators making excuses such as all forums are like this.
 

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D@mn this is a whiny thread... :p
 

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Learning how to filter through crap teaches you focus. If you get all bent out of shape over stupid crap how will you handle real situations?

Ignore stupid crap and focus on whats best for you.
 

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AS THEY SAY AT AA MEETINGS - "TAKE WHAT YOU WANT AND LEAVE THE REST" - HAPPY SARGING :yes:
 

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They should make guys label their post like they do on another forum..

Example: LOW CONTENT= LC- Im scared of girls, but love my hand.


Approach: I sarged at the mall today.

Strategy: How do I respond when she says....

Self-Help: This is how you overcome lameness...


Everyone should label their post, and unlabeled posts should be deleted.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I love this 'labeling' idea... let's propose it to some of the moderators. We already use it with Field Reports (FR). Why not create other cathegories like

Useless Whining (UW)

Stupid Crap I Read On Google (SCIROG)

My Balls Are The Greatest (MBATG)

...apart from joking, I like the idea. Let's organize this thing a little better and let's see what happens.
 
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