Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Moderation of Live SS chat

Magma

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As more and more members begin to utilize our free private chat room, I think there needs to be more organization and moderation to create an effective, efficient, and engaging chat. It is my opinion that a single private room is too small to effectively engage in a given topic.

I would like to propose separate SS chat rooms that correspond with the various forums we have here at SS. I'm not saying that we need 7 different chat rooms, but I think we could benefit from having from having two or three different rooms:

-- Mature Man
-- Health and Fitness
-- General


Each room could be "moderated" by a volunteering member (this role could change every two weeks or so). The volunteering moderator would create the weekly topics and create the times for the chat. In addition, they (the mod) would keep everyone on topic. Perhaps the chat mod could start off the session with an intriguing question or article pertaining to the given topic.

I really enjoy the live chat. Let's get it organized! :D
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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mpimpin

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MacAvoy said:
Except for an hour on Sunday nights, there isn't enough volume to warrant multiple rooms.
agreed and Sunday nights have a specific topic people show up or don't show up for. We all aren't trying to talk about three different topics
 

penkitten

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hi magma,
currently the room i made on chatzy is the "unofficial" chatroom.
some of our members wanted a live chatroom, and since non was provided, i went out on a search for a free chatroom myself.
redpill and i have tried to get the thing to allow other moderators, however since it is a free applet, it doesn't seem to allow that, since no one else shares my email address.
you are more than welcome to make another chatzy chatroom for everyone to use, but there is not enough traffic to really need one.
during the week, people pop in and out and talk about whatever they feel like and have chit chat, but the only time i can really get enough traffic in there is sunday nights right now.
i have been trying to get people to schedule them on other days and times, by request of our uk members, but haven't had much luck yet.

please pm me any ideas or you can come up with.
 

Magma

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MacAvoy said:
Except for an hour on Sunday nights, there isn't enough volume to warrant multiple rooms.
What I was thinking was that Sunday nights would be the official live chat night. If there were topics offered up in MM and Health and Fitness, perhaps more people might come? I guess you could call it the "Field of Dreams" theory of chat, if you will: Open them up, and they will come.

Just a thought...



Pen, I certainly appreciate the time and effort that you the Pill have put forth concerning the live chat. I think the initial response is pretty good! I can't remember who suggested it, but perhaps the intereseted parties could pony up a quarter or so and transfer it to a Paypal account to pay for the Chatzy premium service ($9 I believe?). I would certainly be willing to part with two bits.

Thoughts?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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