"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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:crazy: I'm guessing she hasn't made it yet and is going to college as back-up. Checked out her facebook and of course, guys are all over. She sits right next to me in class and is the most attractive girl in the class, if not, the whole school.

If she was going to HS with me, I'd probably be all nervous. Now. Not so much. Although I notice that she's attractive, I'm too absorbed in my schoolwork to really want to get to know her. I just like looking at her from time to time. She has nice legs.

For some reason, maybe b/c I'm not paying attention but am cordial, she tries to talk to me every class. I just give her short answers. While she's talking to me, I hardly respond or look at her. I'm usually busy studying.

Just today, the girl was waiting for me outside. When I saw her, I thought about going that way so she could intercept me just out of curiousity, but another girl from class came up to me instead. We're in the same major. So I naturally speak to her.

I wish I was like this in HS, when I had more time to date around. :cry:
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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CarlitosWay

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I'd one day ask her about a problem you have with a girl. Make up some stuff that could get her visualizing some naughty stuff. See how she reacts. Could work.......and be enough to initiate that interest you want.
 

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you don't need a "reason" to talk to anyone, a simple "hey where'd you go to high school? you dont look familiar"

work on basic conversational skills, dont try and "seduce" her at this point, just be casual and friendly, become one the guys she thinks is "cool" you dont want to ever really "seduce" a girl right off the bat of meeting them, unless you going for same night lay, because you wont see her again.

as of now build rapport and familiarity with her, avoid taking advice of getting her into sexual states, for now.
 

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the305 said:
you don't need a "reason" to talk to anyone, a simple "hey where'd you go to high school? you dont look familiar"

work on basic conversational skills, dont try and "seduce" her at this point, just be casual and friendly, become one the guys she thinks is "cool" you dont want to ever really "seduce" a girl right off the bat of meeting them, unless you going for same night lay, because you wont see her again.

as of now build rapport and familiarity with her, avoid taking advice of getting her into sexual states, for now.
LOL... yeah can't forget building some nice rapport. Ok I get a little ahead of myself at times. ...hmm no wonder I get called a man *****/bad boy right off the bat.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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xectxny19x said:
:She sits right next to me in class and is the most attractive girl in the class, if not, the whole school.

. :cry:
Pedestal!!!! Careful dude!!!

Personally I need girls to be attractive inside and out or else I can't do anything. If the girls pretty dumb to me well, attraction killed.

Anyway I won't dole out any advice cuz I'm still a novice, but yea I definitely noticed that you're on this girl's nuts from the OP, dial it down man or you could fall flat on your face.


Otherwise best of luck :up:
 

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the305 said:
as of now build rapport and familiarity with her, avoid taking advice of getting her into sexual states, for now.

this is the third time ive seen you put up this crappy advice. being in a sexual state from the start is what keeps you out of the friend zone. i agree, be casual, but at the same time, ALL your conversations with women should have flirty sexual undertones, especially if you're interested. the only reason that wouldnt work for someone is if their confidence was piss poor and didnt believe themself to be worthy of sex with the girl, and/or they were strikingly ugly. even then, your ability to excite her sexual mind may be your saving grace.
 

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this is the third time ive seen you put up this crappy advice. being in a sexual state from the start is what keeps you out of the friend zone. i agree, be casual, but at the same time, ALL your conversations with women should have flirty sexual undertones, especially if you're interested. the only reason that wouldnt work for someone is if their confidence was piss poor and didnt believe themself to be worthy of sex with the girl, and/or they were strikingly ugly. even then, your ability to excite her sexual mind may be your saving grace.
common misconception with guys just starting out in the community.. so I don't blame you for thinking like that, as I did, for YEARS.

I will make a post about it, shedding some light.
 

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common misconception with guys just starting out in the community.. so I don't blame you for thinking like that, as I did, for YEARS.

I will make a post about it, shedding some light.
i wouldnt consider it a misconception. i mean, granted, im not the average dj. im about a 9 in looks, with the personality of a god, a great family life that i can call on to tell stories about to build comfort and just generally show that i really have deep substance. and im a little confident. ha.

but ive NEVER had issues with a girl responding badly to me being sexual. honestly, id love to discuss it with you, so ill wait till you make your thread rather than hijacking this one.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Regents halfback 22 said:
and being cool leads to... this model asking you out?
If you had any clue whatsoever you'd understand what playing it cool entails and the end-game of playing it cool :D

For guys who actually have some idea of what they're doing: if every lovable loser would do it, don't. Think outside the box--do you really believe the only way to get a girl into the sack is to "ask her out" on a "date" to which she says yes or no? If you believe that, you're gonna lose the game.

Lose the game.

The game.
 

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I'm not interested in the girl enough to pursue in any way. If this were in HS, I'd be all over it. But now, I'm actually more focused on my schoolwork more than this model. Makes me kind of sad, since she seriously has some nice legs. :cry:
 

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then do it while doing ur schoolwork. if it works, then u can use her to alleviate stress from schoolwork if not then more time for it.

but i think ur just making up excuses to not go for this girl. just do it u fool. do what comes natural. if u dont feel like talking then dont. dont force it, ul just sound like a dumbass. but dont make excuses in ur mind. quit crying.

cuz if u werent THAT interested... u wouldnt have posted this.
 

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xectxny19x said:
:crazy: I'm guessing she hasn't made it yet and is going to college as back-up. Checked out her facebook and of course, guys are all over. She sits right next to me in class and is the most attractive girl in the class, if not, the whole school.

If she was going to HS with me, I'd probably be all nervous. Now. Not so much. Although I notice that she's attractive, I'm too absorbed in my schoolwork to really want to get to know her. I just like looking at her from time to time. She has nice legs.

For some reason, maybe b/c I'm not paying attention but am cordial, she tries to talk to me every class. I just give her short answers. While she's talking to me, I hardly respond or look at her. I'm usually busy studying.

Just today, the girl was waiting for me outside. When I saw her, I thought about going that way so she could intercept me just out of curiousity, but another girl from class came up to me instead. We're in the same major. So I naturally speak to her.

I wish I was like this in HS, when I had more time to date around. :cry:
Zarky said:
nah, don't be like all the other douchebags who ask her out every single day. Play it cool.
Regents halfback 22 said:
and being cool leads to... this model asking you out?
War Against Betaism said:
Zarky is correct. Here's why.

There are two situations - one is where you will only see her once, such as a club, library, party. In that situation, you MUST ask for her number right away.

The other situation is where you constantly are in the same venue as she is, i.e. a classroom setting. In this situation, you want to DHV to her but indirectly.

Ignore her and DHV through your interactions with other students, the professor, etc.

You will be able to tell if you have piqued her interest - this may take some time. But it should be readily apparent when you have done so.

A beautiful girl is not used to high-value guys ignoring her and she will start to try to get your attention. This is when you slowly but surely interact with her and ask for her number.

Remember, with beautiful girls, you want to DHV first, otherwise you are lumped in with all the other losers who are trying to get with her.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Aww, dude! You got this girl on a goddamn pedestal! Then you got it gold plated! What gets me is that this girls seems to show interest. And you're not acting. Talk to her, find a way to pique her interest, do something dammit!

You're found guilty of not acting/ making a move on a girl you fancy. The fine for it is worries that she's being banged by another guy and blue balls. There is also a trip to Loser, South Dakota.

Judge Nismo-4 is very disappointed in you. Read my sig. Remember it. Apply it. And stop shopping at Pedestals R' Us!

Case closed. Post a follow up when you make your move.
 

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Regents halfback 22 said:
whatever you say dude
Regents, I don't usually attack people online, but you're an idiot. You're 21 years old and have no experience. Time for you to keep your misguided opinions to yourself and start listening. I started speed seduction when I was your age, 14 years ago. If the OP asks the chick out at this point--unless she just happens to already be interested in him--then he's screwed. He's not increased her attraction to him or her comfort with him.
 

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Zarky: Age has nothing to do with being and i quote "good with women", Bootcamps.. Lair meetups.. ages range from 16 to 60 with them all having one common problem, not being as successful as they like to be with women.

Not sure why you are all fixated on the whole age thing, from your post to your signature.

P.S. I know people who have been in the "community" 4+ years and they STILL suck. like i said, its all relative homie.
 

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She isn't a model!! If she was a model she would be in high school still. Plus, 85% of models are coming from Eastern Europe or Southern Brazil these days. I suspect this is another boys story. At best she was a stripper.
 

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nismo-4 said:
Aww, dude! You got this girl on a goddamn pedestal! Then you got it gold plated! What gets me is that this girls seems to show interest. And you're not acting. Talk to her, find a way to pique her interest, do something dammit!

You're found guilty of not acting/ making a move on a girl you fancy. The fine for it is worries that she's being banged by another guy and blue balls. There is also a trip to Loser, South Dakota.

Judge Nismo-4 is very disappointed in you. Read my sig. Remember it. Apply it. And stop shopping at Pedestals R' Us!

Case closed. Post a follow up when you make your move.
Judge nismo keeps making me laugh with the sh*t he writes and his handling of cases!

But OP, you just need to make some kind of damn move before the nerd with The Legend of Zelda wallet does!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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