You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
First of all I would like to say anyone who steps into that cage I give him alot of respect. Your friend showed that he has heavy hands. What rank in bjj does he have? If he is going to take it to the next level he really needs to work on everything. Even his boxing looked sloppy. One think he showed is he is heavy handed.Bible_Belt said:One of our guys has a video of last Saturday's fight on youtube. Here's the link:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RNsSqlAVbsA
He fought a weight class up, and the other guy had 15-20 pounds on him. He got thrown all over the cage in the first round. And then round two started...
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
bmxcetera said:The guy from my brother's school had to fight against a guy from the Arlovski Team (chicago). Arlovski was in the corner of his opponent and coaching. Our boy Dwayne lost in the 2nd round to the arlovski team guy.
www.uwcmma.com
2nd fight from the top in the results listings.
Brad is going to be in a heap of trouble if he doesn't improve his bjj skills. Even at this level.He even had a chance to lock the guillotine from the guard. I talked to the brown belts at my school and they say to fight at the UFC level you have to at the very least be a purple belt. Brad has some talent but he would be so much better with bjj, especially at this level.Bible_Belt said:You are right, lookyoung. I agree with what you said. Brad does not take the bjj classes; he only trains some bjj as part of the mma training. Only a couple of our fighter also take bjj, myself included. Our jiu-jitsu instructor is an advanced purple belt; he said he might test for brown this fall. I respect his skills very highly; I would guess that he has more ability than anyone in Southern Illinois. I understand that a belt is only as worthy as the instructor's discretion in awarding it, but this guy is legit. If Brad were in bjj, I'm sure the instructor would be saying the same things as you. He had gotten used to being to just throw his opponent around, but that does not work when fighting a bigger guy. Those heavy hands saved the day. The other guy got hit so hard that he did not understand that the ref had stopped the fight.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I have not been training that much lately. I am kind of busy. I also weightlift and I am weaker with weights because of training in bjj. I also noticed I lose muscle mass when I am training strictly bjj. Have you noticed the same thing bible belt. My school is also about 15 miles from me. I tell you if I didn't have to work I would be doing doubles. Weights and bjj everyday.Bible_Belt said:cool, bmx. Did you notice that the cage had six sides? Ours had seven. I think Dana White must have trademarked the octagon cage and the UFC sues anyone who holds fights in an octagon.
Yeah, Lookyoung, my first fight will probably be this fall. I'm a little busy this summer; will keep training five times a week, though. If we have a bjj submission grappling tournament before then, I'll enter that, too.
Yes I will be there for sure. I am not ready to compete however. have not been training as much. If I was going to compete I would need at least 6-12 weeks of competition training. If you go let me know maybe we could talk mma and grappling at the tournament. Quite a few people from my school are competing. I would say at least 10-30 guys.Bible_Belt said:Hey lookyoung, there is a grappling tournament on the 24th:
http://www.nagafighter.com/chicago05-08_home.asp
NAGA COMES BACK TO CHICAGO!
The North American Grappling Association (NAGA) is America's largest mixed grappling tournament circuit! On Saturday May 24, 2008 the NAGA comes back to Chicago, Illinois for the largest grappling tournament in the Midwest
One of our female fighters is planning on competing. Are you going?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Well alot of guys enter both, but more guys do strictly no-gi from what I hear. that means there are more guys in the no-gi divisions. Some purple belts at my school were saying that they are going to enter only one division. By the time your done with the gi or no gi and have to fight again your pretty worn down. I would personally do both. You may get knocked out early in one. and than can go to the next one. Plus each match is a valuable learning experience.Bible_Belt said:I asked and got the ok from my mma trainer to enter. Tonight I will ask my bjj instructor. They have a novice class, six months experience or less and old guy brackets, 30+ years. This looks perfect for me. I started in January. After spending months rolling with 200+ pound guys with years of experience, the chance to compete against another 30 y/o novice who is close to my own weight is appealing to say the least. I can easily make the 159.9 pound cutoff.
Do most guys enter both the gi and no-gi?
Which one and where? I tried to look and I could find dates, but no location.armadon said:Any of you guys going to the World BJJ championship this year? If you are maybe we can meet up and have a beer. I usually drink before I hit the mat.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.