You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
First of all I would like to say anyone who steps into that cage I give him alot of respect. Your friend showed that he has heavy hands. What rank in bjj does he have? If he is going to take it to the next level he really needs to work on everything. Even his boxing looked sloppy. One think he showed is he is heavy handed.Bible_Belt said:One of our guys has a video of last Saturday's fight on youtube. Here's the link:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RNsSqlAVbsA
He fought a weight class up, and the other guy had 15-20 pounds on him. He got thrown all over the cage in the first round. And then round two started...
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
bmxcetera said:The guy from my brother's school had to fight against a guy from the Arlovski Team (chicago). Arlovski was in the corner of his opponent and coaching. Our boy Dwayne lost in the 2nd round to the arlovski team guy.
www.uwcmma.com
2nd fight from the top in the results listings.
Brad is going to be in a heap of trouble if he doesn't improve his bjj skills. Even at this level.He even had a chance to lock the guillotine from the guard. I talked to the brown belts at my school and they say to fight at the UFC level you have to at the very least be a purple belt. Brad has some talent but he would be so much better with bjj, especially at this level.Bible_Belt said:You are right, lookyoung. I agree with what you said. Brad does not take the bjj classes; he only trains some bjj as part of the mma training. Only a couple of our fighter also take bjj, myself included. Our jiu-jitsu instructor is an advanced purple belt; he said he might test for brown this fall. I respect his skills very highly; I would guess that he has more ability than anyone in Southern Illinois. I understand that a belt is only as worthy as the instructor's discretion in awarding it, but this guy is legit. If Brad were in bjj, I'm sure the instructor would be saying the same things as you. He had gotten used to being to just throw his opponent around, but that does not work when fighting a bigger guy. Those heavy hands saved the day. The other guy got hit so hard that he did not understand that the ref had stopped the fight.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I have not been training that much lately. I am kind of busy. I also weightlift and I am weaker with weights because of training in bjj. I also noticed I lose muscle mass when I am training strictly bjj. Have you noticed the same thing bible belt. My school is also about 15 miles from me. I tell you if I didn't have to work I would be doing doubles. Weights and bjj everyday.Bible_Belt said:cool, bmx. Did you notice that the cage had six sides? Ours had seven. I think Dana White must have trademarked the octagon cage and the UFC sues anyone who holds fights in an octagon.
Yeah, Lookyoung, my first fight will probably be this fall. I'm a little busy this summer; will keep training five times a week, though. If we have a bjj submission grappling tournament before then, I'll enter that, too.
Yes I will be there for sure. I am not ready to compete however. have not been training as much. If I was going to compete I would need at least 6-12 weeks of competition training. If you go let me know maybe we could talk mma and grappling at the tournament. Quite a few people from my school are competing. I would say at least 10-30 guys.Bible_Belt said:Hey lookyoung, there is a grappling tournament on the 24th:
http://www.nagafighter.com/chicago05-08_home.asp
NAGA COMES BACK TO CHICAGO!
The North American Grappling Association (NAGA) is America's largest mixed grappling tournament circuit! On Saturday May 24, 2008 the NAGA comes back to Chicago, Illinois for the largest grappling tournament in the Midwest
One of our female fighters is planning on competing. Are you going?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Well alot of guys enter both, but more guys do strictly no-gi from what I hear. that means there are more guys in the no-gi divisions. Some purple belts at my school were saying that they are going to enter only one division. By the time your done with the gi or no gi and have to fight again your pretty worn down. I would personally do both. You may get knocked out early in one. and than can go to the next one. Plus each match is a valuable learning experience.Bible_Belt said:I asked and got the ok from my mma trainer to enter. Tonight I will ask my bjj instructor. They have a novice class, six months experience or less and old guy brackets, 30+ years. This looks perfect for me. I started in January. After spending months rolling with 200+ pound guys with years of experience, the chance to compete against another 30 y/o novice who is close to my own weight is appealing to say the least. I can easily make the 159.9 pound cutoff.
Do most guys enter both the gi and no-gi?
Which one and where? I tried to look and I could find dates, but no location.armadon said:Any of you guys going to the World BJJ championship this year? If you are maybe we can meet up and have a beer. I usually drink before I hit the mat.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.