"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Tails

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check it out yo...

this girl i've known for a bit, called her up last night just to say hi. see what she sounds like, blah blah. then chatted with her online and i told her she should come with me to see a movie. she agreed and apparently we're going on saturday. and she said she'll call me on friday to let me know when she finishes work and wants to meet. at one stage i said nevermind cause it was taking too long to organize the date but she said she wanted to go with me so we worked something out. so she must be interested.

so this is the weird part... tonight when i got online. yeah, she said hey in the main room. she never msg'ed me the whole time... and we were both chatting in the main to other people, totally ignoring each other pretending we weren't there. then my friend (girl i know in real life) chatted to me in the main and i think she would of gotten jealous perhaps... cause of the things the girl i know was saying to me. she would of read it for sure. she said bye three times and kept staying everytime she said bye. since i never message her... only rarely. whenever i get online i go out and do my things. i come back and there's a message from her. but last night we had a chat for the first time in a while and she seemed pretty okay with the whole date thing happening this weekend...

what was the deal tonight? maybe i'm just thinking too much of it?
maybe she was waiting for me to message her?

i know you're not supposed to get a thing for just one girl. you gotta go out, keep yourself busy, i know, i know... but i can't! i mean i study at school everyday all day, but i come back at about 4pm and then i got nothing to do. i mean there's really no where to go. and where can i go at fuken 9pm at night? gotta go to bed early yo. so i end up sitting on the comp all night as usual. i'm not gonna pretend to be busy and ignore her.

any ideas?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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maybe i'm just thinking too much of it?
Yes. Meet her this weekend and see how it goes. Get off the ****ing IM chats.

i mean i study at school everyday all day, but i come back at about 4pm and then i got nothing to do
I work 9 to 6 5 days a week and I still got things to do when I get home. You got NOTHING to do? Hang out with friends man.

mean there's really no where to go.
Cinema, bowling with mates, Go-Karting, Mini Golf.... Just get outta the house!!

and where can i go at fuken 9pm at night?
We live in the same city, Tails. Depends what you're into, what do YOU enjoy? Answer that and I might be able to help you out.

Remember, if you don't do anything other then pursuing girls, when you get a girl, you'll get oneitis so bad that you'll just be a total panzy. Sounds like you need some more hobbies bro. What are you studying at school?
 

Ebach

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At 9pm I'd usually be banging some chick but that's just me. You, I don't know, maybe you should sit all night long at your computer and do chat online? Have some imagination my friend. Think of something.
 

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I hate chatting online. I typically refuse to do it with girls I'm interested in, unless its just chit chat for a couple min. In fact I make sure I don't even sign on hardly at all. Think about it: even if she just knows your online, where's the mystery in knowing your sitting at home on the computer? If you're not out and about at least don't allow her to know it.
 
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