"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Mixed signals with a girl telling me she has the hots for another guy....

Adakkon

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I meet this chick at a football game, and I gotta say I've never had things click and run so smoothly before. I was almost positive I had her very interested. She wasn't leaving my side to talk to anyone else and was asking me to walk with her to the food stands so she won't be alone, and giving me some of her food as a reward. Talking about some sexual stuff with me, laughing a lot, and I was just getting all kinds of positive signs.

One of her friends is over near us and she mentions some guy she apparently has the hots for has shown up. She leaves me immediately and goes over to him. This pisses me off a bit since I thought this might be a deathblow and I just leave the area and go talk to some friends.

Like a minute later she comes back over and apologizes for "ditching me". (This seemed kind of wierd to me since we weren't even there together, we were just talking and crap) Then she says "You understand, on one hand the guy I like, on the other" and looks at me. I don't see how I can interpret that as good.... so at that point I'm thinking "next'. Yet she doesn't leave my side for the rest of the game, and is still giving me good signs and asking questions about me. I was a bit pissed off because I felt like I'd wasted a good hour flirting and chatting her up, so I kept kind of moving around every once and awhile to get away from her and she kept coming to talk to me. Then when I'm about to leave she is hanging on me telling me she doesn't want me to go.....

What to make of this? I'm thinking I might have just made her backup or something since apparently this guy doesn't like her too much if he only talked to her for like a minute then went away or something. (I'm not sure why she came back to me so soon after leaving) Maybe I'm in even better then I'm thinking and she was the one who left him after a minute to come back and talk to me. The whole "On one hand the guy I like, on the other you" thing really threw me off. Everything else said go.
 
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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AustinG

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sounds like a test...when she walked off to talk to the other guy you shouldve walked off found some other girl or some friends or somthing to talk to..an see if she comes to you.
 

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Since you were actually there, I'll let you decide wether she was really interested.

I would have said that she was just a Don Juanita up until what she told you when she got back. Set something up and see where this goes.
 
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That's why when I see a girl I know or like , I never stay around her for more than 10 minutes at a time unless she follows me.

Next time you're around her, ditch her and come back and say the same sh*t she said about "I like the other (girl) but you on the other hand......"

other than that, don't get mad over it.

Remember, never put all your eggs in one basket. Happy Easter.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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