"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Mixed Signals...what do you think?

Aldo

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I haven't even approached this girl yet. I have something in mind, but she's giving mixed signals. Here goes my mind overanalyzing things again, but I just can't help it.

She's interested:
- She glances over at me sometimes in class (she sits far away from me)
- One time I looked up at her while she was looking at me, she jumps (like when you're surprised), then she looks away
- I passed her in the halls once and she looked at me then quickly looked away when she saw I was looking at her

She's not interested:
- One day, right before class is over she walks right by me without looking at me with her arms crossed
- Whenever I'm near her, she doesn't even look at me
- She speeds off after class

What do you think? Is she interested?

I'm thinking of approaching no matter what, but I just want to know if she's interested. I'll probably say something about the class (like "Did you get any of what the teacher said?" or "How'd you do on that test?"), but who knows. I'm trying to work on telling my mind to stfu. I'm trying to be like Nike and just do it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Aldo said:
I haven't even approached this girl yet. I have something in mind, but she's giving mixed signals. Here goes my mind overanalyzing things again, but I just can't help it.

She's interested:
- She glances over at me sometimes in class (she sits far away from me)
- One time I looked up at her while she was looking at me, she jumps (like when you're surprised), then she looks away
- I passed her in the halls once and she looked at me then quickly looked away when she saw I was looking at her

She's not interested:
- One day, right before class is over she walks right by me without looking at me with her arms crossed
- Whenever I'm near her, she doesn't even look at me
- She speeds off after class

What do you think? Is she interested?

I'm thinking of approaching no matter what, but I just want to know if she's interested. I'll probably say something about the class (like "Did you get any of what the teacher said?" or "How'd you do on that test?"), but who knows. I'm trying to work on telling my mind to stfu. I'm trying to be like Nike and just do it.
I hate to say it dude, but overall she sounds creeped out. Initially she may have been interested, but most of what you've written shows that she's purposely avoiding you. While women usually don't blatantly approach men, they usually show signs of interest, i.e. getting in your proximity, brushing by you, mirroring your stance and, of course, alluring eye contact. (keyword, "alluring").

This girl seems to be very creeped out so my best advice is to avoid her and get at other females. #1 it will help increase your confidence and focus on other females and #2 she MAY notice and show signs of interest again. (Women are funny like that).

Good luck
 

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Aldo said:
I haven't even approached this girl yet.
then...

Aldo said:
What do you think? Is she interested?
I think not. :whistle:

No one here is psychic, you're gonna have to AT LEAST talk to the girl before we can tell you anything.
 

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For christ sake bro, i swear you new guys are getting worse lol

You can't tell if she likes you by how she looks at you...

You know what of course she doesn't "LIKE" you but she might be "INTERESTED" so talk to her, if she act's interested in you (like that she seems to act like your interesting) while she's talking to you after you have started talking to her... Use tips in the bible which you better read or i'ma find you and slap you.

Fact is you can't tell by a few looks, if she looks at you though go talk to her, no harm can be done by this.
 

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You'll never know till you approach her. Grow a pair and start up a conversation, stop thinking about if she likes you or not.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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eaglez1177 said:
You'll never know till you approach her. Grow a pair and start up a conversation, stop thinking about if she likes you or not.
I got that covered. It's just that she's never in class. She missed like 17 out of the 21 school days so far lol
 

eaglez1177

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Lol well shes gonna have to come eventually...trust me eventually she wont be able to miss that much schoool....and dont make excuses.
 

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Well I've got bad news. The girl switched out of the class, and as big as my school is, I'll probably never see her long enough to start up a conversation.

And now that makes me more aware of my chances I had with her before. Like when there was an open seat next to her all class a couple of weeks back.

F*** me. I guess I have to learn from this. I hate regret though. I hate it 10 times more than rejection...
 
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