"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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mixed signals.. mixed signals everywhere

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so for a little background story..
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=2178510#post2178510

so that happen then i stopped contacting her, and she initiated conversations twice via facebook. We talked about maybe hanging out last sunday, but she didn't reply. then she replied the next day saying that she was just now seeing the message. I just answered with an ok, then sent her a picture of what she had missed. After that we arranged to meet on thursday (08/28) on her schools campus (i was there for a concert) when i got there i told her that i was on campus, she promptly replied asking me where i was so that we could meet up. we met up and hung out for about an hour, just talked and made out. (I couldn't close because all her friends were in her dorm so we couldn;t got back there). We talked and arranged to maybe hang out next saturday if I don't have work and she doesn't have anything going on for school (she's a music major and so are all her friends, so she's constantly going to their events.). I just said it was fine if our plans fell through but that we should just make some anyways. I don't really care if the plans don't work because I have another girl as my backup for that night. So when I was leaving to go meet my friend at the parking deck i asked if she wanted to come with (mainly because I just wanted my friend to give her a rating, an 8.7). when I was saying bye she closed her eyes and seemed to get ready to kiss me, so i kissed her and left (it was a bit weird since i never kiss a girl goodbye in public unless we're actually together).
I haven't contacted her since that night, but neither has she. She's also the last one that texted me when she was trying to find me on campus.
What do you guys think? should i contact her, or wait it out? I'm strongly attracted to her, not only physically. contact her or no? what do you guys think of the situation?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Tictac said:
Why are you confused?

She's not interested in you.
I'm an AFC and beta chump, that's why I read this forum. I take the advice of the experts because they have more experience than I do. However, the "next the girl if she doesn't fall in love with you within 2 hours" mindset is pissing me off. I'm not sure whether if it's because if she doesn't fall in love with you within 2 hours then YOU HAVE NO CHANCE, or you want to avoid getting your a** hurt trying hard and still being rejected - so you protect yourself with this "NEXT" mindset.

Again, this is not an expert opinion. However, I'm sure the quoted answer is as much of scientific as astrology or tarot. You may say "She's PROBABLY not interested", "It LOOKS like she's not interested", but there's no way to be absolute and tell the OP that he has no chance with the girl.

Just the two cents of a noob who is following the forum's advice and being self confident enough to post my opinion.
 

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Call her, or text her if you must, and ask her out on a date. If she goes, great - kino and escalate. If she says no with no counter offer, you have your answer: NEXT.
 

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What is up with all these trolls lately? Are their lives really bad?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Mixed signals is low to no interest. Women who are interested in you won't confuse you. Would she send out mixed signals to Brad Pitt? Hell no.

If a woman is unsure about something with a guy or gives a maybe, it is a no. Anything other than an enthusiastic yes with actions to back it up is a no, and warrants a deletion.
 

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The Medium IS the message:
http://therationalmale.com/2011/09/06/the-medium-is-the-message/

I hate the term ‘Mixed Signals’ or ‘Mixed Messages’. More often than not there’s nothing ‘Mixed’ being communicated and rather it’s a failure (willful or not) to read what a woman is communicating to a man. The average guy tends to ‘get’ exactly what a woman has implied with her words, but it takes practice to read her behavior and then more practice in self-control to apply it to his own interpretation. When a woman goes from hot to cold and back again, THIS IS the message – she’s got buyers remorse, you’re not her first priority, she’s deliberating between you and what she perceives is a better prospect, you were better looking when she was drunk, etc. – the message isn’t the ‘what ifs’, the message IS her own hesitation and how her behavior manifests it. 10 dates before sex? This IS the message. Canceling dates? Flaking? strong interest to weak interest? This IS the message.
 
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