"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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mixed signals.. mixed signals everywhere

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so for a little background story..
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=2178510#post2178510

so that happen then i stopped contacting her, and she initiated conversations twice via facebook. We talked about maybe hanging out last sunday, but she didn't reply. then she replied the next day saying that she was just now seeing the message. I just answered with an ok, then sent her a picture of what she had missed. After that we arranged to meet on thursday (08/28) on her schools campus (i was there for a concert) when i got there i told her that i was on campus, she promptly replied asking me where i was so that we could meet up. we met up and hung out for about an hour, just talked and made out. (I couldn't close because all her friends were in her dorm so we couldn;t got back there). We talked and arranged to maybe hang out next saturday if I don't have work and she doesn't have anything going on for school (she's a music major and so are all her friends, so she's constantly going to their events.). I just said it was fine if our plans fell through but that we should just make some anyways. I don't really care if the plans don't work because I have another girl as my backup for that night. So when I was leaving to go meet my friend at the parking deck i asked if she wanted to come with (mainly because I just wanted my friend to give her a rating, an 8.7). when I was saying bye she closed her eyes and seemed to get ready to kiss me, so i kissed her and left (it was a bit weird since i never kiss a girl goodbye in public unless we're actually together).
I haven't contacted her since that night, but neither has she. She's also the last one that texted me when she was trying to find me on campus.
What do you guys think? should i contact her, or wait it out? I'm strongly attracted to her, not only physically. contact her or no? what do you guys think of the situation?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Tictac said:
Why are you confused?

She's not interested in you.
I'm an AFC and beta chump, that's why I read this forum. I take the advice of the experts because they have more experience than I do. However, the "next the girl if she doesn't fall in love with you within 2 hours" mindset is pissing me off. I'm not sure whether if it's because if she doesn't fall in love with you within 2 hours then YOU HAVE NO CHANCE, or you want to avoid getting your a** hurt trying hard and still being rejected - so you protect yourself with this "NEXT" mindset.

Again, this is not an expert opinion. However, I'm sure the quoted answer is as much of scientific as astrology or tarot. You may say "She's PROBABLY not interested", "It LOOKS like she's not interested", but there's no way to be absolute and tell the OP that he has no chance with the girl.

Just the two cents of a noob who is following the forum's advice and being self confident enough to post my opinion.
 

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Call her, or text her if you must, and ask her out on a date. If she goes, great - kino and escalate. If she says no with no counter offer, you have your answer: NEXT.
 

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What is up with all these trolls lately? Are their lives really bad?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Mixed signals is low to no interest. Women who are interested in you won't confuse you. Would she send out mixed signals to Brad Pitt? Hell no.

If a woman is unsure about something with a guy or gives a maybe, it is a no. Anything other than an enthusiastic yes with actions to back it up is a no, and warrants a deletion.
 

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The Medium IS the message:
http://therationalmale.com/2011/09/06/the-medium-is-the-message/

I hate the term ‘Mixed Signals’ or ‘Mixed Messages’. More often than not there’s nothing ‘Mixed’ being communicated and rather it’s a failure (willful or not) to read what a woman is communicating to a man. The average guy tends to ‘get’ exactly what a woman has implied with her words, but it takes practice to read her behavior and then more practice in self-control to apply it to his own interpretation. When a woman goes from hot to cold and back again, THIS IS the message – she’s got buyers remorse, you’re not her first priority, she’s deliberating between you and what she perceives is a better prospect, you were better looking when she was drunk, etc. – the message isn’t the ‘what ifs’, the message IS her own hesitation and how her behavior manifests it. 10 dates before sex? This IS the message. Canceling dates? Flaking? strong interest to weak interest? This IS the message.
 
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