mixed messages

[Atldude]

so this girl i have been talking to, now all of a sudden seems distant... anyways, i chatted with her online... and we just went thru some chitty chat stuff... so i told her i would call her tomorrow and she says she is out all day tomorrow. I am thinking about asking her point blank "Do you want to keep talking and see where things go? or do you just want things to be friendly"?

am i already screwed or it's not worth asking...

regards

 

[In2theGame]

so this girl i have been talking to

Right there is the problem. Youve been talking too much. try to get her into a sexual state and you will see how distant she gets Probably a really close distance.

 

[Nightwing]

so this girl i have been talking to, now all of a sudden seems distant... anyways, i chatted with her online... and we just went thru some chitty chat stuff... so i told her i would call her tomorrow and she says she is out all day tomorrow. I am thinking about asking her point blank "Do you want to keep talking and see where things go? or do you just want things to be friendly"?

am i already screwed or it's not worth asking...

regards

Don't ask her no stuff like that, you sound like a chick.

Understand this,

MIXED MESSAGES=SHE'S NOT INTERESTED

 

[fbplayer06]

Don't ask her no stuff like that, you sound like a chick.

I agree. Imagine asking her that question: regardless of how she responds, do you really expect there to be no awkwardness after you find out where you two stand? If she says she's serious, *and tells you this*, what then? I think it's better for this feeling to develop "under the radar" without either person blatantly telling the other that it's happening.

If she answers with "Let's just be friends," nervous, you're really no worse off then you are now.

Whatever happens, good luck man.

 

[thegenerousjew]

Don't talk to a chick everyday. Unless she's your sister and you're fond of her [Maybe not even then ]

Anyway seriously, let her miss you a bit. If she knows you want to talk to her all the time she's obviously going to lose interest.

 

[Serialized3]

MIXED MESSAGES=SHE'S NOT INTERESTED

I don't think that's always the case. Sometimes she'll give you mixed messages because she's testing you (which is a good thing), or because she simply doesn't know how to act due to inexperience or 'intimidation', which is also a good thing.

 

[Nightwing]

I don't think that's always the case. Sometimes she'll give you mixed messages because she's testing you (which is a good thing), or because she simply doesn't know how to act due to inexperience or 'intimidation', which is also a good thing.

Maybe so, but the question is, do you really want to waste your time deciphering what she's trying to say??

From my experiences, chicks telling you they are busy and acting distant is generally a sign for not being interested. Instead of trying to break her barrier, it's best to move on and pull out another chick in your roster.

 

[Serialized3]

Maybe so, but the question is, do you really want to waste your time deciphering what she's trying to say??

From my experiences, chicks telling you they are busy and acting distant is generally a sign for not being interested. Instead of trying to break her barrier, it's best to move on and pull out another chick in your roster.

Right, it's always a good idea to pursue the girls with the higher interest levels ahead of the girls sending mixed messages, but what I was just trying to point out was that mixed messages aren't necessarily always a bad thing.

 

[Nightwing]

Right, it's always a good idea to pursue the girls with the higher interest levels ahead of the girls sending mixed messages, but what I was just trying to point out was that mixed messages aren't necessarily always a bad thing.

I feel ya bro, seriously

I just have a thing about that subject and have a low tolerance for it.

 

[Serialized3]

I feel ya bro, seriously

I just have a thing about that subject and have a low tolerance for it.

Ya I feel ya too man, I have prospects so that I just passive game broads that play games like that and go after the ones that aren't doing this. Gotta keep your options open though, and shy chicks are still chicks.

Good advice for the noobs though

 

[FurryFriend]

I don't think that's always the case. Sometimes she'll give you mixed messages because she's testing you (which is a good thing), or because she simply doesn't know how to act due to inexperience or 'intimidation', which is also a good thing.

Exactly.

Also, attraction creates tension. Tension creates inconsistant behavior that comes off as "mixed signals"

If a girl is 100% consistant, she probably doesn't like you and think of you only as a friend.

A lot of you wannabe DJs should drop the notion that a girl has to be into you 100% of the time. That's stupid.

 

[Nightwing]

If a girl is 100% consistant, she probably doesn't like you and think of you only as a friend.

No, that just means you know where she stands. That's whether she likes you or not.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

There is no such thing as mixed messages, only misinterpretations. A woman will tell you exactly what she means, you just need to be able to understand how she's communicating it to you.

Now, what is this girl's behavior telling you?

 

[Atldude]

i am out

i am 99.99% sure i am out... she hasn't called or im'd me since... so when we started talking we talked for 5 mins/ day for about 3/4 days... then about this last monday all communication kinda slowed down.... and i asked her about tue after she kept running on me whether she was avoiding me... she denied it... and she said she was busy... yadda yadda... and then yesterday when i told her i would call her today, she mentioned she would be out all day... it's pretty obvious that she aint interested anymore... i just wanted to be sure...

what do you guys think?

 

[Nightwing]

i am 99.99% sure i am out... she hasn't called or im'd me since... so when we started talking we talked for 5 mins/ day for about 3/4 days... then about this last monday all communication kinda slowed down.... and i asked her about tue after she kept running on me whether she was avoiding me... she denied it... and she said she was busy... yadda yadda... and then yesterday when i told her i would call her today, she mentioned she would be out all day... it's pretty obvious that she aint interested anymore... i just wanted to be sure...

what do you guys think?

NOT INTERESTED

 

[Atldude]

any chance of getting her back?

if i lay low and not initiate contact any chance of raising her interest level.. or once goner always a goner?

 

[Nightwing]

if i lay low and not initiate contact any chance of raising her interest level.. or once goner always a goner?

Dude, you're fighting an uphill battle that you're not going to win. And even if you do get somewhere with your efforts, is it really worth spending all that energy??? You're better off moving on and hooking up with another chick--there's plenty of other chicks out there that you don't have to focus on just one.

 

[Atldude]

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So this chick that kinda went cold... now starts messaging me again.. and i will be in her city in canada in about 3-4 weeks and i ask if she's gonna be around... and she says.. she should be and that we should get together for coffee/dinner... should i go for it.. or is she just yanking my chain...

i may give her a last chance and lay the cards on the table as in... "don't like to play games.. you are either interested or not.. decide... and i am looking for something long term, etc..."

what do you guys think?

 

[Atldude]

bump

anyone?

 

[Obsidian]

Read the damn Bible, n00b.